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Dealing with divorce

I'm trying come to terms with where I am.

The last two years have been a nightmare.

I found out my husband was having an affair with a young girl. Not only that but he'd been having affairs behind my back for years, even with someone I'd considered a good friend.

I tried to repair it but there wasn't anything to repair really.

I ended up sofa surfing around friends in my church and drinking far too much. Finally the old friend who'd cheated with my husband told me to wise up. I went to a good solicitor and drove through a tough divorce.

My kids wanted to stay in the big house with dad and the new girlfriend. That was probably the most painful thing.

A few months ago I moved into a new house in a new city and was simply totally lost. I met a neighbour who's been just brilliant. She was the first person I didn't feel was judging me. She keeps suggesting here so I thought I'd try it.
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in10RjFox · M
In most cases discoveries ruin lives. You could have closed one eye as if you didn't find anything unusual and prepared for it by remaining in the luxury. And now you are the one who got yourself thrown out of the house and made his life easier.

And starting a new life which is not going to be easy. Instead you could have remained in marriage and still could have come here to find affair partners.
aginggracefully · 70-79, M
@in10RjFox Not a very sensitive comment.
in10RjFox · M
@aginggracefully you meant sensible I suppose..
AngelaR80 · 41-45, FNew
@in10RjFox I couldn't have cheated on him it was so devastating finding him cheating on me
aginggracefully · 70-79, M
in10RjFox · M
@AngelaR80 you may not have before you found out.. but you may have after to keep the marriage and cornered him when he finds out about yours.

It's all in the mindset. You could have waited until he brought up the affair on his own.

Anyway it's the curse of monogamy which is against nature because nature never intended to lock people in marriage.. it's man's own Karma..

Anyway now that it's all over , you can live out a new life and can redeem your individuality which otherwise would have remained buried in marriage.
in10RjFox · M
@aginggracefully check your English..

I have actually made a sensitive comment but you may have found it Not sensible.