Aside from devastating blows like affairs, abuse, addictns and such, how did you know you were really ready to throw in the towel with your marriage?

She said "I want out!". Went to therapy for months, made several romantic gestures up to and including a personal video and poem about how much I missed her and a weekend in LA.

Still said "I want out!"

Filed the next day and kicked her ass to the curb.