20 years down the drain. [I Am Getting a Divorce]

I never thought this would happen. Unfortunately I learned some things I wish I hadn't. Perhaps my best friend was right since the beginning. Maybe if I wasn't so blind the first time we had problems maybe it would not hurt as much. Too many times I turned a blind eye or did not want to believe. What is done has been done. We have not even told our son yet. I don't know what to say.

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Human1000 · M

Was it flawed from the beginning in retrospect? What was it?

afterlight · 51-55, M

@Human1000 This will be long explanation in advance. Not long after we married she wanted to quit her job to be a housewife. I convinced her to keep her job because two incomes are better. My bestfriend thought it was weird but I brushed it off. When our son was born 3 years later she tried this again and I convinced her to keep her job. Not long after that she would spend money left and right racking up lots of debt. She would buy her friends presents or would have girls trips. I confronted her about it and she said sorry and wouldn't do it again. This happened again in 2006 but she spread rumors about me around saying I was prostituting myself out online in exchange for money. That was the year we almost lost the house,the car and everything because everything was getting sucked dry. I was depressed and tried killing myself also. History repeated itself once more this year.

Turns out she has cheated on me several times over the years. Her friends refer to me as the midget and she laughs about it. I feel used and betrayed.

Human1000 · M

@afterlight I’m so sorry, and I’m glad you’re okay. Please don’t try to hurt yourself again! It sounds like divorce is for the best as painful as that is.

afterlight · 51-55, M

@Human1000 Unfortunately so. I Probably should have done it long ago.