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I Am Getting a Divorce

I am getting a divorce... I just haven't started yet. I married him because I felt it was best for my daughter to keep her shielded from his anger and to guarantee that he never played the games of dragging her through court for every holiday and that other sort of nonsense. I was able to be with her every minute and never worried since I was always there. I keep trying to stay strong and hold it together, but I'm so worn out that I think depression has taken a hold of me. I don't enjoy anything I used to and I long for the days when I was single. I'm not even a shell of the woman I used to be.

So, I'm going to take this year to get myself sorted emotionally so I can be strong through it, get my finances in order by way of finding a job and ensuring I can be completely independent the minute I walk.

I just needed to get this out of my head because through this long ordeal of a marriage, I've lost all of my friends and I have no one to truly talk to.
firefall · 61-69, M
That's really tough, feeling so isolated. It sounds like you're doing the right thing, and being cautious about it, which is very wise. It'll be worth the nonsense he inflicts occasionally, to be free and able to grow & feel again.
aileigh · 46-50, F
@firefall Yes!!
BeautifulMess · 26-30, F
Good for you. My mother stayed with my father till I was 17 just for the sake of my me and my siblings but now that she's remarried and moved on she seems so much happier than what she used to be. She found a way to be independant without him.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
As you can start buying things you will need. Dishes..silverware...glassware....toaster...kitchen items....maybe a lawnmower and find somewhere to store these things.Have him buy you a new car. Then when you file and leave you already have necessities.
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
Ok aileigh...that is first priority. I was just saying buy the things you need on his credit card so when you leave he has the credit card bill to pay
aileigh · 46-50, F
@PTCdresser57 Haha... nah, I am not like that. That's funny though!!
PTCdresser57 · 61-69, M
aileigh...a good friend of mine did that when she left with her son. He made twice the money she made. She just set her and her son up so they could live comfortably.
MarineBob · 56-60, M
Best of luck. .. many people has stayed together for the same reason
DoubleRings · 51-55, F
i’m sorry to hear. how long were u married
aileigh · 46-50, F
@DoubleRings It's been over 10 years.
Fernie · F
"I am getting a divorce... I just haven't started yet. I married him because I felt it was best for my daughter to keep her shielded from his anger and to guarantee that he never played the games of dragging her through court for every holiday and that other sort of nonsense"...…...what?
aileigh · 46-50, F
@Fernie People use the court system to play games with their kids. I want my daughter to have a stable upbringing, which she has.
Divorce is never easy. Keep your spirits lifted by meditating and finding a comforting place when he tries to rattle you. Keep your focus and do everything respectfully and unselfish. Everything will work in your favor when you do everything the right way.
Thingschange4444 · 51-55, M
Hope things work out well for u all because a stale marriage breaks you.
DonaldTrumpet · 70-79, M
WiLLz U makeS surEz U DonTz taKeZ His MonEYZ?
Montanaman · M
🤗Hugs 🤗

 
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