I Am Divorced

One Year... June 12, 2012, one year since everything was legally final.
In some ways it was over much sooner than that, and yet in many ways it is still not over. I am not sure if it ever will be.
There are many different angles to the divorce question but in the end you have to weigh the lesser of the evils.
'Two is better than one' comes to mind. Does that still apply if the two fail to work together, to the point where they actually undermine one another? How much can two people together accomplish when they are jealous? or when they undermine each other? When it becomes a competition? When they intentionally hurt each other?
Is 1.24 better than 2 people at odds?
The question is, do I love this person enough to sacrifice myself?
Another, am i doing it all by myself anyways?
Trying to do it alone with 2 people is a struggle.
Can I live with myself afterwards...
can i ever forgive myself?
To the therapist Wednesday.
:)

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ambroseguy80

This is one reason I am still in my troubled marriage. I ask these kinds of questions and it always seems to come up "stay for now". Time will tell and I wish you luck in your future! :-)

ijustneed2talk · 51-55, F

you just have to see if it's more than you can take and decide carefully. It's better to stay especially when the circumstances are not so clear cut. I mean some things you just can't forget and it takes it's toll when you stay and it poisons the whole relationship. It's hard when your spouse needs you so much too and cannot do it on their own due to resources, illness, etc. It makes you feel like you left them when they needed you the most and you look like a jerk. or feel like one anyways

ambroseguy80

Totally get that!!! I come home from work and have to pick up all the chores she dropped during the day. It gets tiresome. You are so right about the poison, and the lack of resources (funds) is a killer....