I Am Divorced

Its been almost 7 months now but it feels like it was just yesterday. After 12 years of marriage it was not easy for me to split with the one I thought would stay with me forever. We had such a great marriage going on but it was just not meant to last forever. May be I was a fool to not see through the things. I don't think I will ever again be ready to remarry and loving someone else will be equally hard.

I am hurt and I still weep at nights. I still go through sleepless nights thinking about the promises and the plans we had. It was all sham. How can I trust anyone again to spend the rest of my life with?

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PoetryNEmotion · F

It is a grieving process. You are still early in the process. Sounds like it was about trust. I know all about that. I am sorry for your suffering. Listen to me, please. Take the time to heal. Concentrate upon yourself. Be kind to yourself. Develop yourself. Socialize-don't seclude yourself. When you are ready, you will meet someone who will make you believe in love again and in trust. She will come when you least expect it. And it will be scary and wonderful and so many, many things. Trust me.

sharpedge · 41-45, M

@PoetryNEmotion Thank you! Its almost like I have given up. I want to change but fear of going through all that again is what stops me. Thank you for your words though :)

PoetryNEmotion · F

@sharpedge I lived in mistrust for 3 decades. It was unmentionable-it was betrayal and deceit. Do not give up. You mustn't judge everyone by your ex. There are such incredible people in the world. And judging by your words you are a sensitive, caring man. You have been through this mess once and still going through the thoughts. So you can handle anything. Be strong. Be weak too. Your crying shows you care. And I hope my words help because they are true. You may pm me if you wish. I will make time for you.