sometimes NOT having children of our won can free us up to love on kids who dont have someone to love on them....or to bless kids who are dealing with difficult times. I cannot have kids of my own, but I was blessed to marry a woman who had 5 daughters......who i adopted and even though biologically, they arent mine....they ARE my kids...........be the Aunts and Uncles to kids near you or that are in your family...it IS a huge deal and is very important