I Come From a Broken Family

I am kinda looking for some advice or maybe I'm here to vent but I am open to getting some feedback (positive, of course). I am 30 years old. When I was young (until age 11) I moved. A lot. My mother and father separated after only 6 years of marriage. My mom had an affair and my dad left. I moved between my mom and dad and grandparents every year without fail. My dad lived about a 15 hour drive from my grandparents and my mom lived wherever she was at the time. We'd move sometimes more than twice a school year really far away. I experienced abuse from all parties. I was a really good kid, did well in school, responsible oldest sibling. When I was 10 years old, I lived with my father. He had a gambling addiction and we lived in a house that cost too much and had power cut and no food. We got put in a foster home. By the grace of God it was a good one. The three of us siblings were together. When that happened, my mother lived in another province and didn't know we were seized from our father. I eventually returned home and lived with my grandparents until I graduated high school. After the day we were put in a foster home, I have talked to my father 4 times. In 20 years. He came to my high school graduation; two years later, I reached him at his workplace and gave him my number. A year after that, I reached out to him again when my son was born. He saw me, met my then-partner and my son, and left. After that, I broke up with my son's dad and moved home. My father and I never talked again. Just last month, my father added me as a friend on Facebook, and I accepted with the determination that if there were any reaching out to happen, it will be him to me. I'm getting married in 2 months. Should I invite him? Should I stand my ground and not talk to him? Some of my friends say one way, some the other. Help, please ☺