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I Have A Father-figure Who Is Not My Biological Father

My father, bless him, Toni, took me on when I was very young.

He met my mum, fell in love with her and me, and got married. Just a few short years later, they divorced. He took me away in custody.

He did a great job, I must say. Always there for me, never bothering about other women, and just lived for me.

I remember, it was funny....this handsome part-Italian guy picking up his girl from school whilst all the other mother's just swooned over him. He was courteous and polite to them, for sure, but mum must have owned - and broke - his heart as he just wasn't interested...

He taught me maths, English and all about history and art. That was his passion and, guess what? That soon became one of mine too...

When I rebelled against him it caused a few issues. Later on, my 'lifestyle choices' caused some huge cracks in our relationship, ones that led to us not taking for a good number of years....

Marriage didn't really help either. He was gracious to my husband, Mark, but didn't really like him. It was only after the birth of my first daughter that he came back on the scene. His first grand daughter...

Since then he's supported me with my health issues and just been there for me....

Life is much better with him around. As much as I am with my mum, forever shall I be a 'Daddie's Girl'...

We do daddy-daughter things like going to museums and out for meals; we've even painted together, that being one of my pastimes, and just spending some quality time together.

He might not be my biological father - heck, I have no idea who that is - but I don't care; he's my parental father and that's all that matters....

....and that's why I still call him 'Dad'....

M x
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darktippedrose · 41-45, F
My dad wasn't my father but he raised me, also. My husband didn't like my dad so now we're estranged. But I still miss him and I still love him.

Some men can love a child thats not theirs and be the best Daddy ever, and then some men can't love their own blood.

Blood or not, I think its sweet.
SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
@darktippedrose pity your family can't get on....always a shame I feel...

Hope it all works out eventually...

Sarah 💋💋
Canicu69 · 70-79, M
I and my two brothers were raised by a step father. He was great..mentor, teacher, great example, great father. I have never had children of my own, however i met this beautiful lady with two of rne most amazing daughters. I was in heaven Im still so proud of both. They are MY kids ! Both are suceccsful, both have families and we spend time with one another. Their mother is still as beautiful as the day i met her. I am so proud to have lived my life with our family. (Note: she married the wrong person, meaning me)..
darktippedrose · 41-45, F
@Canicu69 Why were you the wrong person?
Canicu69 · 70-79, M
@darktippedrose my x wife was raised in a family that was very religious. She was and still is a beautiful woman. She married a guy from Lebanon after she became pregnant by him. He was very controlling and when she had the first, a girl, he refused to visit or pick her up. 1 year and 8 days another girl was born. He refused to visit and take her home from the hospltal. They divorced and i came along and we married. I love to party even to this day. No drugs, but i will drink with the best, dance, flirt, and enjoy everyone. Both were employed with ok jobs. Her goal was to find someone who would take care of her and the kids...i was able to take care of her and kids, until one night, we were sitting in our bonus room in a 5 bedroom 3,5 bath 2 new cars in the drive way, two beautiful children, and she looked at me, we were drinking a class of wine and said. Ron, we don’t have anything. I looked at her and said...ok maybe you and the kids should go over on the east side, cheap rent, and get a two bedroom apartment with out me............to be continued if you want the rest of the positive story......
SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
@Canicu69 oh, do tell more...

Sarah 💋💋
ozgirl512 · 31-35, F
I think that's a great story and I think you're lucky .. Everyone needs a mentor in their life I think...I have a similar great relationship with my dad
acpguy · C
Good for you. I love your story. I helped raise a step daughter who's father was physically and verbally abusive to her mother and very controlling with her brother and her. Unfortunately he had them brainwashed and they cannot see whet he is doing to them and to their mother.
SW-User
Well, ‘daddy-daughter’ things doesn’t sound good.
MartikaDuponte1 · 41-45, F
@SW-User We hang out and have a mutual appreciation of Art, amongst other things.....

Pretty much like good friends.....

😎
SW-User
@Solenya I’m dirty minded. Sorry. Haha.
ozgirl512 · 31-35, F
@MartikaDuponte1 nothing wrong with that..a meeting of minds or whatever ..
SarahTheHooker · 26-30, F
I think you're blessed having Toni in your life....

....and he knows he's blessed having you in his....

Sarah 💋💋

 
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