I Was Adopted

When I was 13, my parents sat me down for a serious talk. I found out they weren't my birth parents. My birth mother was only 16 and the woman I had always thought was my mom knew the family. She and her husband adopted me.

I don't hate my birth mother. Someday I'd like to meet her and tell her thank you for letting me live and for letting me go with someone who could give me a better life.

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SW-User

Hey I'm an adoptive mum and I'm impressed by your attitude. Now days it is strongly encouraged to let the child know they're adopted from the beginning. I have a couple of great books I used to read to my son and would take him to play groups with other adoptees and cultural events. It must have been a real shock for you and I'm glad you don't seem to have any bitterness.

Kimtastic · 22-25, F

@SW-User Thank you! And thanks for adopting too! Yeah, I'm not saying it wasn't a TOTAL shock and I was bitter and confused for a while. And I still have my moments.

SW-User

@Kimtastic I was thinking that you've probably got a lot more processing ahead of you too. And to have lots of conflicting or negative feelings is normal and perfectly ok. I think you'll be alright - you sound very positive as a person, grounded and mature