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My son appears to have cut me out of his life.

Recently, I read him the Riot Act. He and I have gotten along well for years, but lately he has been lazy, selfish, self-pitying, conceited, and ungrateful. I told him so. I also pointed out that he has alienated everyone else — his mother, his grandmother, his uncle, and now me — with his behavior. Now, in addition to cutting them out of his life, he appears to have cut me out, too.

I'm sad.

My door will always be open. I've contacted him but he hasn't responded. Oh, well.

I'm still paying his rent and his college fees. He's being a jerk, but that doesn't entitle me to cut him off. At least, I don't think it does.

[edit] I've told him that he has to pay his own mortgage from now on. He already has two tenants, each paying a quarter of the mortgage. He has to find the other half. He has Pell grants, student loans, etc. He can even (gasp) get a job if he wants! So, yeah, I've told him it's his problem now. When he's ready, he can ask me for the login details of the website.

Did I mention I bought him a house because "no one would rent" to him? Anyway, as I said, the mortgage is his problem now.
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1490wayb · 56-60, M
hopefully his attitude will improve once he gets a taste of real life...is he spoiled??
KosherSausageMerchant · 51-55, M
@1490wayb Yes and no. He had a rough childhood. He does have mental health issues, but he exaggerates them and sees himself as a permanent victim. It's exhausting for everyone else. Nothing is his fault, everyone hates him, he's always having some mental health crisis or another, he says he was an alcoholic, etc. It's... a lot. Full-time college was too much, so he took a semester off and raised pumpkins. He kept getting kicked out of apartments 'for being trans' (which he is, and I'll fight anyone who has a problem with that), but being trans is NOT an excuse for being a crappy roommate. His grandmother says he takes after his mother (her daughter) in far too many ways. She's a narcissist, a liar, a manipulator, ... She says he's turning out just like her.

I've been his biggest cheerleader and (sometimes) the only family member who is willing to defend him against these accusations. When he estranged himself from me after I tore him a new butt hole, he showed me his true colors. It's a great pity. I thought I had raised him better.