I feel bad for my sister

She worked so hard to acquire two bachelors degrees in criminal justice and psychology in three years from university. She wanted to work in law enforcement or something related. She did everything right worked part time jobs to make a little extra money in college, got a high gpa, and she found a job in state department of homeland security in Tennessee. The problem was she really hated her job and it was ruining her mental health being mostly working from home and just a poor match for her temperament as she needs a more active job. She also got raped almost a year ago. She came back to where she grew up living with me and my parents again. She had tried to find a new job in her field even in Tennessee . She even did the civil service exams passed with flying colors for the written portion and physical fitness exams for Rhode Island and did a ride along for one of the police departments but nobody pulled her to train for the police academy. She is also going to do the Massachusetts civil service exams too when they open in March. She has been working in cafes again, did orientation for a group home job for kids section with severe disabilities as a supervisor position but decided it was too risky because the second day of orientation they said you could get charged with neglect easily if a kid for example swallowed something they shouldn’t. Now she is substitute teaching at the local high school and she truly hates her job. She is waiting for someone to give her a chance. And is just waiting for the civil service exams to open again in Massachusetts and she has been applying at different police departments so someday she could work her way up to maybe.an investigator. Now she in therapy and has post traumatic stress like flashbacks and panic attacks and anxiety. She be was assaulted by someone she was dating back in Tennessee but the asshole was not only a rapist but before that just wanted to see where things went so had commitment issues. My sister being significantly younger was made to feel like she didn’t know what she wanted and preyed on by this 30 year old piece of shit. So emotionally gaslighted and abused before the sexual assault. She went through hell as a teenager with an eating disorder of anorexia. She has been through a lot and she is trying to not let it get her down but sometimes she is depressed and angry. I know what is feels like to be sexually abused but feel helpless in how to help her with her problems as I haven’t even solved my own life problems yet. All I can do is listen and be encouraging and she is also frustrated with me because I do not make changes and little steps to improve myself when I have the supports around me. She is sick of living with dysfunction when she absorbs the problems around her on top of her own issues. She likes having the supports to help her like helping take care of her dog, but misses having her own place and space. She has been back since mid July. I wish life would go right for her because she didn’t give up on things and tried to give it her all. She doesn’t want to turn into me and I can’t say I blame her. I told her maybe she could go on unemployment. For a while but she said she doesn’t qualify and she needs a job to keep her busy and make money for her bills. My parents help out financially. But Allyson feels like a child taking their money. They help her with student loans for instance. Sometimes she needed money for extra things in Tennessee because her job didn’t pay enough after. Federal taxes even though there were no state taxes. Massachusetts is much more expensive than Tennessee. And she also misses the culture of TN sometimes as she is moderate republican. For example she said she didn’t want her tax dollars to go off funding someone hurting their bodies for transsexualism. Which she considers a mental illness. She voted for trump rather than Kamala. Harris because of economics and she saw him. As lesser of two evils. I shook my head in disbelief. Finding out she voted for trump but what can you do? Anyway, I feel bad because she followed a certain path only to get as she put it screwed up the asshole. That’s a visual I didn’t need. She also stopped talking to her guy friend who became like her close friend because after a while.he couldn’t put his feelings aside and respect her boundaries of just being friends. So she lost a friendship too. She is 23 and feels like a failure. My parents tell her things will work out for her and that she just needs to give it time.