Eidolon · M
This is such a brave and tender reflection
To see the pattern while you're standing inside it - and choose to soften instead of harden, that’s love in its most honest form. Breaking cycles takes courage, and you’re already doing it by naming it.
Your children are fortunate, even if they never fully know why.
To see the pattern while you're standing inside it - and choose to soften instead of harden, that’s love in its most honest form. Breaking cycles takes courage, and you’re already doing it by naming it.
Your children are fortunate, even if they never fully know why.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@OlderSometimesWiser she could be bipolar, some people say she is behaving like she has dementia.
But she has always been like this.
She sets exceptionally high expectations on others but expects everyone to accept her flaky laziness.
I recognise that I have high standards for myself, I set them for others too. I can be lazy but this is as a consequence of burnout from trying to keep on top of everything.
I'm not trying to discredit my mum, I just know that since I moved out and stopped helping her with housework. She often lives in squalor. She says that people think they're better than her for not visiting but I've not know a period of time where my mum doesn't have mess, piles of dishes, food left on plates on the sides sometimes food not scrapped off plates left in the sink and mini flies flying around, to add to it the place stinks of stale smoke.
You tell me would you want to be in that environment around a person like that?
But I'm the bad guy for being honest.
She started therapy,CBT I thought it was helping, she really talked a good talk. Then I volunteered to wait for her tv delivery and the mess I mentioned was there. Btw she was off work for 4 days prior.
But she has always been like this.
She sets exceptionally high expectations on others but expects everyone to accept her flaky laziness.
I recognise that I have high standards for myself, I set them for others too. I can be lazy but this is as a consequence of burnout from trying to keep on top of everything.
I'm not trying to discredit my mum, I just know that since I moved out and stopped helping her with housework. She often lives in squalor. She says that people think they're better than her for not visiting but I've not know a period of time where my mum doesn't have mess, piles of dishes, food left on plates on the sides sometimes food not scrapped off plates left in the sink and mini flies flying around, to add to it the place stinks of stale smoke.
You tell me would you want to be in that environment around a person like that?
But I'm the bad guy for being honest.
She started therapy,CBT I thought it was helping, she really talked a good talk. Then I volunteered to wait for her tv delivery and the mess I mentioned was there. Btw she was off work for 4 days prior.
