At what point did you stop seeking your parents approval?

When I moved out, 13 years ago aged 19.

I was so fed up with my parents relationship drama and how I was being treated I was glad to be free.
I just wanted to live.

I've developed myself and my life according to what I believed was right.
I don't ask my mum's opinion on anything really.

My dad passed but during the time I spent with him when he was sick I demonstrated my care for him and my commitment to being there and that was significant enough.

My grandparents I have shielded them from aspects of my life but when they've asked I don't lie. But it's always asked and answered in a respectful and relevant manner.

I'm not ashamed I just feel like it's out of respect for their Christian values.

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bijouxbroussard · F

I finished school, moved out, had my own income and was completely self-reliant at age 20, 45 years ago.

As soon as I could, I repaid what my parents had given me towards my college education. They never asked that of me, but it was important to me that I could do it.

Since that time, whenever my parents have expressed pride in my accomplishments, that has made me very happy, but I’ve never had to change how I was living my life in order for them to say so.

My independence allowed our relationship to evolve into a friendship, for which I’ve been grateful.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@bijouxbroussard that makes aot of sense to me. And I truly respect you as a person for all you have done, achieved and who you are.