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How do you play with your kids?

So I am going to see my cousin pretty soon and I’ve always wondered this. Why does it seem like everybody just let their kid win without giving them any sort of challenge? Like how do you play these activities with your kids? why do people just let their kids win?

When your child wants to race you at the playground on the kiddie rock wall, why is there this assumption that your child can’t actually race you? Children can climb a rock wall, why else are these on the playground? Instead it seems that grown-ups will just barely move, and act like the Kiddie wall is the hardest thing ever. Why not actually climb, and actually race your child like they are wanting you to do? The whole point of a rock wall races to see who can get to the top first.

It is the same thing when a child wants to arm wrestle with them the adult seemingly barely even does much of anything, and it is very obvious that they are just straight up letting their kid win. Why doesn’t the adult actually put in effort when they arm wrestle? Why not actually challenge your kid, the whole point of arm wrestling is to see who is stronger.

And again it’s the same thing with a relay race. Children know how to run because they have running tracks on playgrounds. So why do parents just do this really awkward walking thing where they are barely moving?

It’s just the same thing if you were going to play with your friend right? You would genuinely put an effort and play with your friend, so I’m not with your kid?
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Adstar · 56-60, M
There is a rule with playing with Kids.. I believe it is that you allow your kid to win at least 1 in 7 games.. that way you give them hope for the next with and you can keep on challenging them to make them get better..

The worst thing you can do is whip their buts each game and never allow them to win.. You totally destroy their motivation and they give up...

Having your kid with no motivation and having given up is sabotaging your own blood line..
@Adstar Only one in seven? That's bullshit, teach them HOW to win, teach them HOW to play and strategy, don't just snowball them and allow only "one in seven", show them how.
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@Adstar but why would you allow them to win.? When they play with you don’t they want you to give them an actual challenge? So why not genuinely put an effort and genuinely play just like you would with any other person?
Adstar · 56-60, M
@Getsomehere If you want a child's development to be as rapid as possible you will challenge them each game.. lets say 4 games and then on the 5th game you play just under their skill level.. Letting them win.. That way they get both.. Challenged and Encouraged.. Absolutely smashing them does nothing for them but demoralize them.. You never want to see your kids demoralized..