Single moms dating and life, what are your thoughts to my rambles?

I am a
single mom - from an accidentashionship. It’s tough and I am not saying no to a partner in the future but I’d rather be alone than compromise on what I need and my values. The only truly bad thing about being a single mom is having to be switcher on 24/7. Especially true for me since my mom has dementia and lives with us. Having to be in charge and responsible 24/7 is against my (female) nature. What do you guys think about dating single mom’s on normal apps I have met two kinds of men (a) are the kids black, as if that’s an appropriate question and (b) they feel like cucke it they raise another man’s kid.

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LadyInBlack · 18-21, F

Most guys I've met just wants to sleep and dip with single mothers.
You've pretty much nailed it on the spot with the cuck comment, which is the ego of many men.

At the same time, most people don’t want to deal with having a baby daddy in the picture.
No one wants to build a bond with a child only to have zero rights after a breakup.
No one wants to step into parenthood on unequal terms, because the reality is, step-parents sometimes can do just as much, if not more, than biological parents, yet they’re still seen as the secondary parent. Whether that be decision making, rights to the child, or daily parenting.
On top of that, it’s not like adopting a child together, where any awkwardness or distance the child feels is typically toward both parents equally.

Also with dating apps especially, but in life in general, I'd worry about men approaching you not to be with you, but to be with your child. (yup, pedophiles)

You can find men that's willing AND mature enough for all of this, but it will be hard. If it makes you feel any better, dating apps are shit for all women, child or not. XDDD