How does having a baby change you?

Ok guys lately, I’ve been grappling with feelings of stagnation, often described as a midlife crisis. Recently, my partner and I learned that we are expecting a child. This news has prompted me to reflect on the potential impact of parenthood. For the parents here, How did the arrival of your child influence your life? and In what ways did becoming a parent affect your sense of purpose and fulfillment?

I would greatly appreciate your insights and experiences.

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in10RjFox · M

Totally changed and gave me a new perspective and purpose to life. I was gifted with twin boys and I saw them as my incarnation and legacy. I started authoring a book to tell them all about life they have got into in a what if I am not around, who will take care of them. The authoring journey was fabulous and it later occurred to me that it was all destined. Just as I thought I narrowly escaped an earthquake while editing the book in a hotel room in Jakarta.

So be responsible and take responsibility. Also don't pamper or keep influencing your child as I see many parents do that. In fact parenting too is brotherhood. That's how I raised my boys .. just as an older brother and not as a father. A child too is a free thinker. Allow the child to develop to think and act on its own. Don't blindly follow or copy other parents especially grand parents 😀. Each of them will want to have a go since you are vulnerable.

Let me know if you need more inputs.

Rogo1 · 36-40, M

Thanks @in10RjFox this is quite informative, just a question, does having kids help you recover from a previous breakup you have been struggling with?

in10RjFox · M

@Rogo1 yes , because kids alter your life totally and it would be a new engagement in life.

Though previous breakup is something to do with your personality in life. Once you learn to take things easy, recovery is easy to.

Rogo1 · 36-40, M

Thank you @in10RjFox , I really hope it does the trick.