.. my mom's mom..

Is in a nursing home with dementia and i heard she is doing badly and getting angry.. i think about calling her but i rarely do

it's been awhile.. i wasn't close with my mom's family.. they resented my dad .. but her dad was the one who forced her to come to America and then marry my dad .. because her dad wanted to come here himself.. which they did eventually .. my few memories of her are going to visit her friend's chocolate shop.. to this day if i smell a chocolate factory i remember being there, also eating ice cream cones and watermelon on the back porch .. and her locking us in the basement once..

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

I know this is not the same situation, but perhaps there is something worthwhile to be gleaned from it.

My mother-in-law was in a nursing home with dementia. I did not exactly have positive feelings toward her. But my wife and I would call her from time to time, and we visited her a few times when we were in town ( several hundred miles away from where my wife and I live.)

When she eventually died, I was at least able to say to myself that I had done the right thing. It does not mean I have to think any better of her. But I feel at peace about my part. (Which to be honest, is all due to my wife's initiatives!)

I am sorry you are dealing with this.

YoMomma ·

@DrWatson she's at the other side of the country..

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@YoMomma That makes it hard.

YoMomma ·

@DrWatson i called her but it was hard to talk to her.. she kept talking to people in the hall.. saying nobody wanted to talk to her

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@YoMomma Nevertheless, congratulations on making that call!