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Sorry I’ve been gone! I’m working a lot.

As a sitter or caregiver for senior residents in a hospital. So far this has been the most emotionally demanding job I’ve ever had. Don’t get me wrong. I love it and the difference I can make, but it has been very eye opening on just how sad most seniors lives are in homes.

They’re stuck within the same walls of this hospital. Within the same routine. Doing little else other than existing without much purpose anymore. Most of their families abandoned and left them there to rot without ever coming to visit.

They say it’s because it’s hard for them to see their parents or spouses like that. You know with dementia and everything. Not being entirely there mentally anymore, still, I don’t know if leaving them to die in alone in a home without ever seeing them is the right call for that.

I guess because this class of citizens is so neglected, there’s always need for caregivers like me. It’s my job to be their companion in a bleak and depressing environment where they don’t have much else.

I get to be their positive and happy light when they don’t really get that from anyone anymore. Not even their families. The things they tell me. The way they cry. It’s hard to even write this because it just takes so much emotionally.

Children are often beloved. Adults carry all the responsibilities of society. So it’s the old folks who can’t really give anything back anymore that seem to fall the wayside.

Even when they’re difficult. Even when the mental degradation of being old and the frustration of living in such a settling where you’ve lost your independence and love from everyone you knew. Even when that brings out the worst in some of them. I get to be the closest thing they have to family now which is a responsibility I take very seriously, but it does take a lot out of me. On a brighter note, I can’t remember the last time I could sleep this well.
HobNoblin · 36-40, M
People have told me I won't have any children to care for me in my old age. I always think of this.
I guess if you've got dementia you probably wouldn't recognize your children anyway. In other cases its just neglect. It will probably happen to them when they age as well.
Bleak · 36-40, F
@HobNoblin If your children won’t look after you in your old age then Karma will hit back for them.
Reject · 26-30, M
@HobNoblin It’s surprising how many people don’t really think about their future like this. It’s why these homes are so filled. I don’t have any children either, but I still have some time to figure something out.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
You have my deepest admiration and respect.
Yours is often a thankless task that few recognise much less are thankful for.
Reject · 26-30, M
@Picklebobble2 Thank you. I really appreciate reading that tonight. Of course we have those residents who are less than respectful when we care for them, but they don’t know any better and… I’m grateful for every opportunity to help someone, even if they don’t exactly understand it.
HannahSky · F
Everyone has a different situation and people end up in nursing homes often for financial reasons. Home care is too expensive for people, or family doesn't live close enough. Usually there's one or two people in the family that have taken on the care in the family along with caring for other people in the family. Sometimes the medical needs are too complicated for staying at home or it's not safe to remain at home. I doubt you know the whole story as to how they ended up in the home. I'd say if you have a family member in a home or one who is at home a lot, go see that person. No doubt it will mean a lot to the person. Much more than a paid worker, as nice as they are, they're not family or friends.
Reject · 26-30, M
@HannahSky Every situation of life has endless complications. This is true always and forever. Still we find time for what we love. It makes all the difference for the residents who do get visits and you can see the sadness in the ones who don’t. Us paid workers may not be family or friends. Some of us treat the job that way, but I choose to care for them.
I used to sit with elderly people.. Im afraid i quit tho.. probably shouldn't have.. i regret that.. quitting that is
Reject · 26-30, M
@SStarfish That’s okay. It’s a very emotionally demanding job so I can understand that. You made the right call I think because you have to be taken care of before you can take care of anyone else. To me it sounds like you just made sure you’re okay and there’s nothing wrong with that.
@Reject well it was thoughtless of me.. she was running me ragged driving me crazy with her craziness but in hindsight if i had just talked to her then she may not have gotten so crazy in the first place idk 🙁
Reject · 26-30, M
@SStarfish It’s hard to say. We can’t know for sure what would’ve helped. It’s good that you’re thinking about it now though. I’ve had quite a few times in my life where I wish I did things differently. The best we can do is be different going forwards.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@Reject That is why medical assisted suicide should be legal in every State in America. What's the point of existing as a vegetable other than to provide a source of income to one's caretakers?
Reject · 26-30, M
@Diotrephes I’d say you’re mostly right, but people have always been very weird about death. Logically you make sense, but emotionally I don’t see many agreeing with that. As for the point beyond income, I think sometimes we care for each other not because we get anything in return, but simply because we want the best for other human beings. For many people that’s not dying until you have to.
Carissimi · F
It’s sad, but you provide kindness and understanding that many don’t have the patience for. A noble job indeed.
Reject · 26-30, M
@Carissimi If there’s one thing I’m good at it’s having patience. Somehow I’ve always been that way. Even when I was a kid. I think what’s helped me with that is this desire I’ve always had to help people. I don’t think I’m selfless or anything. I just feel so much for them. If they experience anything bad, I feel it too in a way. Same goes for positive feelings. So I’m trying to help myself through helping them I guess.
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
May God bless you 🙏🙏🙏 You are definitely providing a much needed service.
Reject · 26-30, M
@Musicman Thank you, sir! I’m happy to serve. Honestly this job is making me realize how much I’ve missed the chance to be there for people.

 
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