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Sorry I’ve been gone! I’m working a lot.

As a sitter or caregiver for senior residents in a hospital. So far this has been the most emotionally demanding job I’ve ever had. Don’t get me wrong. I love it and the difference I can make, but it has been very eye opening on just how sad most seniors lives are in homes.

They’re stuck within the same walls of this hospital. Within the same routine. Doing little else other than existing without much purpose anymore. Most of their families abandoned and left them there to rot without ever coming to visit.

They say it’s because it’s hard for them to see their parents or spouses like that. You know with dementia and everything. Not being entirely there mentally anymore, still, I don’t know if leaving them to die in alone in a home without ever seeing them is the right call for that.

I guess because this class of citizens is so neglected, there’s always need for caregivers like me. It’s my job to be their companion in a bleak and depressing environment where they don’t have much else.

I get to be their positive and happy light when they don’t really get that from anyone anymore. Not even their families. The things they tell me. The way they cry. It’s hard to even write this because it just takes so much emotionally.

Children are often beloved. Adults carry all the responsibilities of society. So it’s the old folks who can’t really give anything back anymore that seem to fall the wayside.

Even when they’re difficult. Even when the mental degradation of being old and the frustration of living in such a settling where you’ve lost your independence and love from everyone you knew. Even when that brings out the worst in some of them. I get to be the closest thing they have to family now which is a responsibility I take very seriously, but it does take a lot out of me. On a brighter note, I can’t remember the last time I could sleep this well.
HobNoblin · 36-40, M
People have told me I won't have any children to care for me in my old age. I always think of this.
I guess if you've got dementia you probably wouldn't recognize your children anyway. In other cases its just neglect. It will probably happen to them when they age as well.
Bleak · 36-40, F
@HobNoblin If your children won’t look after you in your old age then Karma will hit back for them.
HannahSky · F
Everyone has a different situation and people end up in nursing homes often for financial reasons. Home care is too expensive for people, or family doesn't live close enough. Usually there's one or two people in the family that have taken on the care in the family along with caring for other people in the family. Sometimes the medical needs are too complicated for staying at home or it's not safe to remain at home. I doubt you know the whole story as to how they ended up in the home. I'd say if you have a family member in a home or one who is at home a lot, go see that person. No doubt it will mean a lot to the person. Much more than a paid worker, as nice as they are, they're not family or friends.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@Reject That is why medical assisted suicide should be legal in every State in America. What's the point of existing as a vegetable other than to provide a source of income to one's caretakers?
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
You have my deepest admiration and respect.
Yours is often a thankless task that few recognise much less are thankful for.
Carissimi · F
It’s sad, but you provide kindness and understanding that many don’t have the patience for. A noble job indeed.
I used to sit with elderly people.. Im afraid i quit tho.. probably shouldn't have.. i regret that.. quitting that is
Musicman · 61-69, M
May God bless you 🙏🙏🙏 You are definitely providing a much needed service.

 
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