My Brother, his Wife and Kids are making life rough?
I live in a 3 bedroom apartment with my parents and 2 older siblings. One is 41 and the other 44. Though I help my parents out the most with the rent (sometimes my siblings don't even pay), I don't have my own room and stuck in the living room. 2 months ago my brother brought his wife and 2 kids ( 4yr old and 1yr old) over from our country. The plan was for them to live with us for a couples and than move to brother's house in Virginia, we are in NYC.
Since they've been here life has been rough. My brother and his wife has put the majority of the responsibility on us when it comes to raising their kids. I know he works most of the day, but even on his days off, he is never home. He is still moving and acting like he's single. He doesn't even contribute to buying food or other things for the house. For most of the day it's either my Mom or I watching, feeding and taking care of their kids. Their Mom is in their room all day long. Only comes out to eat, use the bathroom or take the 1 yr old in the room when she cries too much and only wants her. I work from home, so sometimes I have to work while watching 2 kids. Especially when my Mom is running errands or cooking. We recently found out that his wife is pregnant. Which in my opinion is totally irresponsible on their part. At least wait 2 to 3yrs before having another one or until they are fully settled in. We don't mind helping out and taking some of weight of their shoulders, but we shouldn't bear the full brunt of the responsibility. Especially when we have our own life and issues of our own.
As for the kids, the 4 yr old is the most entitled, disrespectful child I have ever met. I have 4 nephews and none of them were any where close to this problematic. She refuses to listen to anyone, even her parents. She has repeatedly lashed out at me, threw things at me when she doesn't get her way. Plus she has no patience at all, if she wants something she wants it right away. She feels like we are hear to wait on her hand and foot. She reminds me of a Veruca Salt. They visited Virginia to see my other Sister not so long ago. She called me the very next day to complain about how bad she. Even when she was back in my country my Aunts and Uncles told my brother and his wife that they need to address her behavior before it gets out of hand. Because she has a cousin back home that acts just like, so she picked up that behavior from her. We have told my brother several times when they moved in but nothing changes. I don't fully blame the child, because that's how they raised her. And I do take into consideration that she is a new country, new people new environment, so that could be a factor. I was in her shoes before.
As for his Wife, Ladies please excuse my ignorance and correct me if I am wrong. I know when Women are pregnant their bodies go through so much. She is about 2 months in I believe. I just feel she could help out more with watching the kids. Even if its laying down on the couch in the living room to watch them. Or taking them to the park across the street. So the 4 year old can run around and enjoy the fresh air. I understand she misses her family and she is in a whole new environment. She knows our family very well, she even lived with us back in country while her and my brother were engaged. So its like were are complete strangers to her.
For those wondering why they haven't moved to Virginia yet. My Brother works at a hotel and is trying to transfer jobs there. I guess he is till in the process or doing it.
I just want to hear people's thoughts and point of view. Maybe I am looking at it wrongly.
Since they've been here life has been rough. My brother and his wife has put the majority of the responsibility on us when it comes to raising their kids. I know he works most of the day, but even on his days off, he is never home. He is still moving and acting like he's single. He doesn't even contribute to buying food or other things for the house. For most of the day it's either my Mom or I watching, feeding and taking care of their kids. Their Mom is in their room all day long. Only comes out to eat, use the bathroom or take the 1 yr old in the room when she cries too much and only wants her. I work from home, so sometimes I have to work while watching 2 kids. Especially when my Mom is running errands or cooking. We recently found out that his wife is pregnant. Which in my opinion is totally irresponsible on their part. At least wait 2 to 3yrs before having another one or until they are fully settled in. We don't mind helping out and taking some of weight of their shoulders, but we shouldn't bear the full brunt of the responsibility. Especially when we have our own life and issues of our own.
As for the kids, the 4 yr old is the most entitled, disrespectful child I have ever met. I have 4 nephews and none of them were any where close to this problematic. She refuses to listen to anyone, even her parents. She has repeatedly lashed out at me, threw things at me when she doesn't get her way. Plus she has no patience at all, if she wants something she wants it right away. She feels like we are hear to wait on her hand and foot. She reminds me of a Veruca Salt. They visited Virginia to see my other Sister not so long ago. She called me the very next day to complain about how bad she. Even when she was back in my country my Aunts and Uncles told my brother and his wife that they need to address her behavior before it gets out of hand. Because she has a cousin back home that acts just like, so she picked up that behavior from her. We have told my brother several times when they moved in but nothing changes. I don't fully blame the child, because that's how they raised her. And I do take into consideration that she is a new country, new people new environment, so that could be a factor. I was in her shoes before.
As for his Wife, Ladies please excuse my ignorance and correct me if I am wrong. I know when Women are pregnant their bodies go through so much. She is about 2 months in I believe. I just feel she could help out more with watching the kids. Even if its laying down on the couch in the living room to watch them. Or taking them to the park across the street. So the 4 year old can run around and enjoy the fresh air. I understand she misses her family and she is in a whole new environment. She knows our family very well, she even lived with us back in country while her and my brother were engaged. So its like were are complete strangers to her.
For those wondering why they haven't moved to Virginia yet. My Brother works at a hotel and is trying to transfer jobs there. I guess he is till in the process or doing it.
I just want to hear people's thoughts and point of view. Maybe I am looking at it wrongly.
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