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Kirect89 · 56-60, M
If you ever want someone to listen you, you write them a letter or an email. This is because when you tell someone something verbally, they never remember everything you said and they also cannot always take it seriously unless both sides are on the same level of respect.

Tell her how you feel about her and what your feelings are towards what is going on in the world and you can start out by saying something like:

Everyone knows and you also know mom, that if the Government wants to get a hold of you or anyone, they send you a letter by mail. The government doesn't use social media. I am only trying to help because I care about you and want to make sure no one ever takes you for what you own.
Wait for her to respond to you about the email and don't ever mention anything about it until she does or if she does. When talking to her speak in a low tone and never shout ever if she is shouting. If she starts to argue don't say anything or argue back.


Remember no on argues with themselves.
@Kirect89 I have on different occasions. She won’t read anything my sisters or I send to her.
Kirect89 · 56-60, M
@Colonelmustardseed Maybe she reads it but doesn't tell you.
@Kirect89 She also never changes. What was addressed before, she didn’t acknowledge at all even to do things differently.

Samek · 36-40, M
It's a known scam and we are trained daily at Rite Aid to hopefully identify and stop it from happening but it's disheartening. :(

I think the government has a website stating what they do or don't do you could show her.
@Samek I’ll try to. Or I’ll see if one of my sisters can meet with her and show her it. Thank you.
Samek · 36-40, M
@Colonelmustardseed You are welcome. It's unfortunate but geriatrics can be quite stubborn. You tried to do the right thing and I'm proud of you. <3
Thank God you blocked the scammers page. You've done the best you can.
Jessmari · 46-50
Things like this are a constant worry with my mom. Luckily she has little interest in social media. Unfortunately her phone keeps trying to make up for it.
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Jessmari · 46-50
@Colonelmustardseed Agreed. They keep getting craftier too.
bookerdana · M
I think you have done all you humanly can do..Has your sister spoken to Mom yet?

I hope someone can stop this🙁
bookerdana · M
@Colonelmustardseed Why not call Social Security . They can be very helpful
@bookerdana Yes. They could explain to her that they never contact anyone through the FB or via phone.
bookerdana · M
@Colonelmustardseed Yes and what better authority?? They never call you either
being · 36-40, F
Okay honey to see the bright side in this one...
I mean, I saw it. I told myself reading this, look, you can get dressed and look nice just for being you and there's no need to wait for any kind of appointment, meeting or opportunity.
I'll take this as an inspiration.
@being There are lessons in every moment. 🙂
Awww, that absolutely breaks my heart. You tried, and that's really all you can do. I hope your sisters will have better luck and everything will work out for the best. Don't be hard on yourself. You're a terrific daughter.
Piper · 61-69, F
I'm sorry, and can imagine how sad and frustrating this is for you. You're obviously doing what what you can, and with concerted effort there is hope at least, that she will see the truth of this.
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
I'm sorry.
Mom doesn't want to see it.
Hope it gets sorted and she sees the truth.
Secretsmile · 51-55, F
This is so sad. I don't know how you can change it all but you probably can't.🤔😞
@Secretsmile I’m trying to learn that every problem isn’t for me to solve, and that sometimes all I can do is share what information I know and let other people make their own decisions. It’s difficult for me. 🙁
sam1992 · 31-35, M
You did well , don't blame yourself more .
Aysel · F
I’m sorry. 😔
Jenny1234 · 56-60, F
That’s so sad
daydeeo · 61-69, M
This is so frustrating, angering, and heartbreaking all at once. There is, as they say, a special place in hell for those who prey on the weak. I really hope you can find some peace the midst of it all.
Does she have a friend that could talk to her about this? That you can talk to about this?
omg don’t be hard on yourself hun , I’m sorry but respectfully your mother is a grown woman who is in charge of making her own choices

You sound more than understanding and patient about it all

Hope things improve for you all

Don’t lose heart eh 🤗😘😒🥴
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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I am really sorry, this is so hard to deal with. I think the suggestions of having the police officer talk to her and Social Security would be very good.

My Mom has dementia and I have to watch her use of the internet so I kno how frustrating this is.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@nonsensiclesnail I am really sorry you’re going through the same thing, I know how hard it is.

My brother has access to her phone which has her Facebook so he can monitor that and I don’t have online banking set up for my Mom’s account. I
@iamonfire696 I never considered her access to online banking. Buuttt.. she has to check her balance every single day. Not for bad reasons, it’s that she was a bookkeeper and an office manager most of her life and she needs that certainty that her check book and her account agree.
But if she needs to move money, she calls me to do it. But I may have to consider that as she gets worse.
And thank you. It’s such an odd perspective of a parent. She’s still her but she’s fading, and right now she knows it.

I’m sorry you get to go through this as well. I hope it doesn’t get too hard.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@nonsensiclesnail I had to take away her financial access because she would open credit cards and max them out. She did that with one 3 years ago and I put my foot down.

My Mom can check her balance online but she can’t move any money online because that’s been disabled.

It really is an odd perspective and a lot to deal with.

You know you will need to help your parents when they age but this is hard.
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