Our separation has only enforced the reality that

I made the right choice when marrying my partner .

I say this , because I hear horror stories about people becoming separated and divorced . It's either money , grudges , the one person being an incredibly selfish and vendictive ... So so many bleak truths unveiled ...but my partner and I have talked this out all the way and just both came to a mutual realization ...

The slow downward climb to the point where we decided to call it quits wasn't always easy , but because we communicated and opened doors to allow us each to breathe , Including agreeing to an open relationship. It helped ease the path.. The talks often started out as arguments , but if we didn't take the time to bring our problems to the floor I would probably be telling another tale ....

We are now co-parents in the same house and are going to have a yearly sit down to see if we need to make changes .. Obviously if one of us ends up meeting anyone , this will definitely cause a ripple that needs to be addressed ...right now we are both just seeking FOB arrangements , and she is way ahead of the game , and I am very happy for her to be getting what she needs ...we in fact are now comfortable enough to openly talk about anyone we have our eyes on or want to date, or are sleeping with.. We have just become good friends who share a responsibility to raise kids ....we are still doing family trips together but we have agreed it's necessary to go on trips of our own ..

The other thing that happened that really assured me that I married the right person to separate ., was that she told my mother in Law who lives with us a couple days back .... My mother in law approached me yesterday to let me know she knows , and gave me a warm embrace and said that I was an awesome friend to her and that I have always treated her daughter with the upmost respect and that she couldn't think if a better father for her grandkids ... She always floors me at what a great person she is , but this took me aback , because I was part of the reason a family that she loves , is less of a family ...I can't tell how emotional that made me feel .

I just felt like I needed to share a story about a good parting of ways , because I am always confronted with the opposite . I worked with so many people in the past who speak so despicable of their ex's and their divorce , i just thought it's necessary to relay a message that leaving a marriage doesn't need to be an all out war., and it could be the thing that saves the relationship with the person who you once were in love with enough to get married .....