I love my parents

but I've always had a complicated relationship with my dad. there has been times where he has gotten mad at me over something completely stupid and petty and not worth getting upset about. he talks down to me at times like I'm stupid. meaning he just asks questions a certain way to me like I'm retarded ugh. every time I fought with my parents nothing got resolved and we didnt really talk about the problems after the fight we just went about our business and ignored it. i remember a years ago on Thanksgiving my mom had a mental breakdown and left for a few hours to calm down and be alone. after she got back we didn't even talk about it we just went to the movies like nothing happened 🤦‍♂️
they never apologize for their actions or mistakes etc but have no
problem pointing out my mistakes and flaws and complaining about it to me. it's hard for me to confront them because I know they aren't going to take responsibility for their actions and just blame me for everything. I'd never treat my children like they have treated me. I just wonder if they were raised that way by their parents so thats why they act like that. I've heard that my grandfather ( my dad's father) wasn't exactly the best father and most loving towards his family. he was a good grandpa but not a good father. so it could be why my dad acts the way he does at times its learned behavior maybe idk