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Should I ask for the car back?

About 8 months ago, my younger brother (he is 21), lost his car when his wife at the time got into an accident while driving it. It was totaled and I am not sure if he got anything from the insurance, but 2 months after that they got a divorce. Once they got a divorce he asked me for my car, im assuming because they shared her car while they were together. I, at the time, was working from home and did not use my car at all. He not only had work but also had a son who was starting school. As my younger brother and seeing as the car was cheap and old, I decided to give it to him. Unfortunately, the company I worked for got shut down and I have been out of work. I have been applying for remote jobs but have had no luck. I would need a car to get to any in person job so I am left wondering if I should ask for money or the entire car back. Or should I keep aiming for virtual jobs? I feel he needs the car more than I do because of his already established job, going through a divorce, having a son to pick up/drop off, and he's so young. I am also just struggling. What would be the best choice here?
LadyGrace · 70-79
It might have been best just to let him borrow it but since you made the commitment and gave it to him, that would really be rough on him. I realize your situation too and I feel sorry about that, but is there any way you have a relative or something that could loan you a couple thousand so you wouldn't have to borrow from the bank and pay all that high interest and then sign a contract saying you will pay that person so much money a month? Your idea of finding another job you can do at home is great but I don't know how promising. There are also car dealers that let you buy a car with no down payment and then there are other places that are charity foundations that give cars away to the needy. Or you may have to take the bus for a while, if that's possible. I'm really sorry you're having a rough time and I hope you get this worked out.
meggie · F
You cant ask for the car back. However you can tell him your situation and ask to borrow it for the occasional interview
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
As my younger brother and seeing as the car was cheap and old, I decided to give it to him.
If this is correct as written then you should NOT ask for money or the car. You gave it to him, it’s his car
plungesponge · 41-45, M
Ask him for lifts. He'll get the message soon enough
If you gave him the car free and clear honor your word as it was a gift to your younger brother. But, if you only loaned him the care to use until he gets back on his feet then he has had enough time to get settled and start being responsible for himself and you are totally within your right to ask for it back.
Diotrephes · 70-79, M
@Lupepnte
What would be the best choice here?
If it fits =
https://thebricktestament.com/the_teachings_of_jesus/on_giving/mt05_41.html 4 pictures
dale74 · M
Say hey i need to know if i can use the car to make some interviews and if hired for a few weeks then till i can get another.
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
A gift should have no conditions, what we do out of the kindness of our heart should be final. Think before you use generosity.
You gave him the car... no going back later because your own situation changed - a gift is a gift.
What happened to his old car? Maybe you can ask to borrow your car once in awhile to get a job? Idk
Penny · 46-50, F
tell him you have a problem and you need a car. see what he says

 
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