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I’m trying to decide whether or not to go home…

I’ve been visiting with the folks, my brother has been here the last couple of of days, and my youngest sister and niece live with them. We had a good time until this past evening.
Mom took a fall in the middle of the night and an ambulance was called. I just spoke with the ER doctor—she broke her nose ! Painful, but he says she will heal.
He says otherwise, they ran several tests and physically she’s healthy…why is she so confused ? Dementia, I told him. Ah, he replied sadly. They’ll be releasing her soon. I needed to leave today because of my own doctor appts this week, but felt guilty.
Still, she will be in very good hands when she returns.
This is the most difficult time the family has faced. 😞

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windinhishair · 61-69, M

I am sorry to hear about your mother. I went through a long period of time with my mother's dementia until she passed in 2019. The last few years she forgot who I was, and I had to shift my mindset to trying to be someone that my mother had pleasant thoughts of on that day and in the moment. When she couldn't advocate for herself any longer, I became her advocate. It may not be an easy time ahead, but there can still be good times and pleasant memories for all of you.

I wish you nothing but the best moving forward and will hold you in the Light.

bijouxbroussard · F

@windinhishair Thank you. 🙏🏽

BrokenAbyss

I’m so sorry. It is indeed painful. Honestly it was like living a nightmare watching my mom pass that way. If she is kept safe and has company, that is the best you can possibly do.

My heart goes out to you in the days to come. Much love 💜

bijouxbroussard · F

@BrokenAbyss Thank you very much. 🤗

Piper · 61-69, F

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom's fall and injury, bijoux. It's good knowing that the doctor feels she will recover and heal okay from that. I can understand you feeling guilty about leaving, even knowing she'll be in good hands when she gets home. Still, I agree with what someone else said...that you taking care of yourself is important not just for you, but for your parents.

I can only imagine the pain of seeing a parent decline with dementia, and I have. My heart goes out to you, your father and all of you who love and treasureyour mom. It has to be so very hard. 😞

LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON · F

I am so very sorry. Sending healing wishes your way.❤️
(I can relate.)

Thank God/dess you have each other; that's so key to being caregivers
to parents.

Big warm hugs and love, L.

P.S. I may PM regarding our family tornadoes.

bijouxbroussard · F

@LunadelobosIAMTHEDRAGON Thank you, my friend. 🤗

JustNik · 51-55, F

Oh bijoux. 🫂 but you do have to take care of yourself as well. That’s important to your family, too. I’m glad she is in good hands and neither she nor your father are alone in this. I hope her injury heals well and quickly. ❤️

bijouxbroussard · F

@JustNik Thank you so much. 🤗

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

She is with your sister and niece thought right? How far away do you live?

bijouxbroussard · F

@JimboSaturn Yes, and our father, who is still healthy. They live in the South Bay, about an hour away from me.

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

@bijouxbroussard Well I don't think you should feel guilty for leaving then.

SW-User

Im so sorry this had to happen Bijoux!! Just continue to rest assured that she is in good hands!! Hang in there the best you can!! 🤗

bookerdana · M

Oh,so sorry to hear about your mom,I'll keep your family in my prayer....I know you'll do what you can,the best you can for as long as you can🤗

bijouxbroussard · F

@bookerdana Thank you. 🙏🏽

bookerdana · M

@bijouxbroussard Holiday season makes everything worse...you have friends here if you need to vent❤️

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad she's in good hands. Is it possible to postpone your doctor's appointment so you get to stay more with the folks?

bijouxbroussard · F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether I actually postponed it to visit. This is my last chance to get in before the year ends.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Awww. I'm so sorry about your mom! Hope she isnt in too much pain and heals quickly.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Starcrossed Thank you. 🙏🏽

MellyMel22 · F

I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope she feels and gets better very soon ❤️

bijouxbroussard · F

@MellyMel22 Thank you. 🙏🏽

EarthlingWise

Can you communicate, at least emotionally speaking, with her?

bijouxbroussard · F

@EarthlingWise They brought her back home and I had decided to go after I saw her. She touched my face and said, "I’m so glad you came to see me, Daughter #1 !"
She hasn’t called me that since her illness. 🥺

Vivaci

Praying for your mom’s health and for your family, Bijou 🙏🏼 💙

bijouxbroussard · F

@Vivaci Thank you very much. 🙏🏽

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

Hard decisions. 💔
Whatever decision you make will be right.

Lyfis2live

Go if Your help is needed and You are in a position to offer the same.

YourMomsSecretCrush · M

Praying for your mom, you and your family.

bijouxbroussard · F

@YourMomsSecretCrush Thank you. 🙏🏽

Somewhereovertherainbow · 46-50, F

I’m so sorry 😞 wishing your mom a speedy recovery 🌺

bijouxbroussard · F

@Somewhereovertherainbow
Thank you very much.

Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M

I'm sorry to hear it, Bijoux. ❤️

Fluffybull · F

I'm so sorry ❤️

Sjones13 · 41-45, M

😢

REMsleep · 41-45, F

Sadly every person in my family gets Alzheimers and Dementia if they live long enough. I've seen all the older people in my family spend their last 10-15 healthy years caring for those older than them with dementia and I helped with my grandma until she passed 4 years ago and now my mom has my grandma's sister full time. Its breaking my mom. Sometimes my great Aunt is so violent and the next moment crying about someone who died 15 years ago as though it just happened today or stripping her clothes off.
I understand the guilt, the tiredness, helplessness and sadness.
I will keep your family in my prayers.

bijouxbroussard · F

@REMsleep I’m so sorry that you’ve had these experiences, too. My mother has still not been diagnosed with anything beyond "dementia", but last night was the worst it’s been. She is 89, but my father is 90 and and her father lived to be 95, neither losing their faculties. I would never have guessed that this would happen to her. Before this incident she still had lucid days and on Monday we sat and listened to classical music and she spoke about pieces she had played and performances. She remembered pieces I played, and some duets we had performed together. She was really there with me, and then the next day she wasn’t sure who I was. 😞

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@bijouxbroussard Its a hard disease but its even harder on the caretakers honestly. Just try to support her as you can but don't feel guilty about needing to live your life and take care of yourself too.
Know that it is a progressive illness but she is still there.❤

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

I am sorry. Being away is difficult. ❤

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

I hope your mom feels better and that things calm down.

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