My mum puts her stress onto me. How can I help?
So my stepfather made it clear that he wants to divorce my mum, but she isn't financialy stable to look after 2 kids under the age of 18. He is having second thoughts although, and has not taken legal action so he's just thinking about getting a divorce for now.
As my mum is not that financially stable she keeps asking me to ask my stepfather to use his credit card to pay for things. For example busfaires or use his Amazon prime account for purchases, which I feel weird about because I earnt my money, surely I have the right to spend it and learn how to budget.
I'm currently 16 and when I asked my mum why she called me "stupid" and said that we should not spend our own money and use his while it's available. I offered her that I will work to support us I already have a job as a language tutor paying 15-20 pounds an hour. A decent student salary btw. But she was against me working in a cafe/shop.
How can I help her and myself gain financial stability? Because well she's my mum and it's their relationship not mine. I will move out in two years anyway. I understand that she feels helpless but why can't she get a better job or have me help her at least? Like why not save up or take action rather than sit around and drain somebody's cash? She's trying to get a job that's higher payed which is great for her but why does she burden me with such things like financial instability when she probably thinks I'm too young to do anything to help.
Has anyone here had anything simular?
Or were you the mum?
Help is most appreciated 🖤
As my mum is not that financially stable she keeps asking me to ask my stepfather to use his credit card to pay for things. For example busfaires or use his Amazon prime account for purchases, which I feel weird about because I earnt my money, surely I have the right to spend it and learn how to budget.
I'm currently 16 and when I asked my mum why she called me "stupid" and said that we should not spend our own money and use his while it's available. I offered her that I will work to support us I already have a job as a language tutor paying 15-20 pounds an hour. A decent student salary btw. But she was against me working in a cafe/shop.
How can I help her and myself gain financial stability? Because well she's my mum and it's their relationship not mine. I will move out in two years anyway. I understand that she feels helpless but why can't she get a better job or have me help her at least? Like why not save up or take action rather than sit around and drain somebody's cash? She's trying to get a job that's higher payed which is great for her but why does she burden me with such things like financial instability when she probably thinks I'm too young to do anything to help.
Has anyone here had anything simular?
Or were you the mum?
Help is most appreciated 🖤
16-17, F
