People are saying happy fathers day

I had a similar thing with my grandmother. She was not a nice person. I was civil to her, mostly because I didn't want to make my parents look bad. Then one day we found out she had cancer and she went from normal to sick and bed bound within a couple of months. I'd always heard peoples stories about how they felt tremendous guilt if they argued with someone and the person died before they'd had the chance to make up. So I did a lot of soul searching to try and figure out if I should make an effort to reconcile before she passed and in the end I decided not to. I couldn't pretend I suddenly didnt care about all the pain, damage and hurt she caused. So i remained only civil in her final weeks and didn't cry and profess my love at her bedside as others did. I was always a little worried that one day I'd regret the choice but its been 10 years and I feel the same. The sadness of death doesnt give you a free pass to excuse bad behaviour while you were alive 🤷🏼‍♀️