Will you approve a sleepover for a 12 year old girl at her friend's house?

My 12 year old daughter wants to sleep over at her friend's house. I said no, because I don't know her friend's parents and I don't know the background of the child's family. And now, she is mad at me because I wont let her have a sleepover tomorrow. I said to her she could stay there from 1:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but no sleepover. She is still not happy with it. My husband is not helping at all as he just keep on saying "yes" to sleepover, contradicting me once again. I am upset and not happy. I am just avoiding the topic now and put myself on a timeout. 😭

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lovelywarpedlemon

i don't have kids. but sleepovers are a normal part of growing up. of course i'd meet the parents, family, and scope out the house first, when dropping her off that night. if i saw something wrong, i'd back out with an excuse and explain why in the car home.

good parents trust their kids to make small choices for themselves, esp at 12 she's starting to gain some independence, with room for error. she's probably not as naïve as you think, if she's in public school, if she has access to internet, or TV... unless you've helicoptered over every waking moment of her life... it's important to let kids have their own experiences no matter how much you want to protect them. otherwise she will grow to resent you.

then again, do what you're comfortable with. it's your kid.