Will you approve a sleepover for a 12 year old girl at her friend's house?

My 12 year old daughter wants to sleep over at her friend's house. I said no, because I don't know her friend's parents and I don't know the background of the child's family. And now, she is mad at me because I wont let her have a sleepover tomorrow. I said to her she could stay there from 1:00 pm to 8:00 pm, but no sleepover. She is still not happy with it. My husband is not helping at all as he just keep on saying "yes" to sleepover, contradicting me once again. I am upset and not happy. I am just avoiding the topic now and put myself on a timeout. 😭

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SW-User

Honestly, what I would do is let them go, but go with them. Meet the parents when you arrive, share a drink of tea or coffee or something, and let them have the experience. But that's just me.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@SW-User and what if you're not invited in for tea or coffee? do you let her stay?

tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F

Exactly what I was thinking. @Jenny1234

SW-User

@Jenny1234 If they do not wish to introduce themselves, then that raises red flags. I'd see what's up, and if they're being very defensive about it, then I'd have to take the kid home and try to explain why they couldn't stay the night... Or even at all.

Of course, I grew up in a very different time, in a very quiet neighbourhood. The only times I was never really allowed to participate in sleep overs was if something important was coming up, or someone was sick.