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Parents split and father has a new family

So my parents have recently split, it was kinda messy but all has settled now kinda.
My father has a new partner, who I feel he’s rushed into things with, their now engaged, moving in together etc and she has 4 children of her own, youngest is in her teenage years.

My dads taken the youngest and his partner on holiday with some friends. He’s never ever been one to holiday by the coast but he’s gone, and I’ve just seen he’s gone on all the rides with the child, which kinda upset me because when I was a kid he never did that, he told me I’d have to go on my own and he hates rides. So it was upsetting to see them all having a lovely time when I missed out on that as a child.

He’s taken some of my bedroom furniture for his new house for ‘if me and my partner ever wanted to stay’ but now turns out it’s her child’s room now and I can’t stay here nor have some of my own furniture back for our new house.

I dislike speaking to my mum about it as she’s had it tough recently with the split, bills etc (my mum called the relationship off) so I try not to mention it to her, if I’m honest we don’t speak much, she’s busy with work and keeps herself to herself so I sometimes feel very isolated like I have no family to go to at times.

Sorry for the ranting post, it’s nice to get it all out on paper
SW-User
I'm sorry you're going through this. You're right not to speak to your mum about it. Your dad is acting very selfish and you might want to call him out on it. He took your furniture under false pretenses.

As someone whose parents when through a divorce when I was an adult teen, I can tell you that the strain of divorce doesn't allow people to think clearly. People are rarely rational and reasonable during such a stressful time. The fact is, your father after the "high" of being in a new relationship wears off, will go back to doing what he always does. I'd be surprised if this relationship lasts unless he's a guy who needs to be married and it doesn't matter to whom. Then he and she will be as unhappy as your parents were together. Be glad you're an adult and you don't have to live with him.
BalmyNites · F
I’m sorry, all this sounds very hurtful. Maybe you could ask your Dad to sit down & have a proper talk with you & you can tell him exactly how you feel 💜
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
It’s a lot to try and make sense of.
I understand how you must be feeling.
And you’re right to feel the way you do in my opinion !

It’s an old cliche but true none the less, time heals all wounds.
And right now it seems that’s what your parents need, time.

It’s unfortunate that you being an adult have to now wait in line for your Father to become ‘emotionally available’ to you again before he can explain himself.
So you’re going to need patience, for now at least.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
Damn that’s tough to watch. I think you should have a heart to heart talk about how you truly feel. He needs to hear it
SW-User
That's rough, and I'm sorry it's like that now. If it's any consolation, he's not enjoying it, and it won't last. He'll become himself again, as soon as he's cemented his future. Men often don't lose trajectory when their relationships end. They just keep on the same path with someone new, and they do whatever it takes.
rosyhills · 31-35, F
yea that's tough. I really have no advice but I do wish you well.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Its hard to grow up and realize that our parents have some major flaws and that our family that we thought was a tight unit is now gone.
I would encourage this to be a lesson to you ( not that you did anything wrong) to learn to be very independent. I personally have a relationship with God. So spirituality might be a source of comfort to you. It helps put your mind in perspective.

Cherish your friends and never stop trying to build on your relationships in life with the people that are most important to you. Maybe your mom needs you more than you know.
As for 👨 dads they are simple. He's still trying to impress the new family.
ABCDEF7 · M
Concentrate on your life.

Best Wishes. 🙂
curiosi · 61-69, F
Don't blame you for being upset.

 
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