I have never understood this one thing. Why are people always out to isolate me from my friends?

It's been like this from school. But then in uni, it was still happening, where they would manipulate my few friends into hating me. It was so constant, that sometimes I've even overheard them having those conversations, while they thought I was "asleep". I never understood why. I already didn't have any social skills and making friends was a struggle. Then on top of that people just out to isolate me didn't add up. And now again, there's people always looking for the cracks between our friendship to call up my friend to tell him why I'm sh.it and he shouldn't talk to me. Always pulling him away from me. And then my meltdowns give them good reason to show him. "see? See? She's crazy!" 😞
Why do they want me to not have any friends?

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hartfire

I very much doubt that they are thinking about your interests.
They probably don't know your past history,
and they would have no idea why you lack social skills.

Put bluntly, social skills are a vital part of getting on well at work, and with friends and family. People might forgive occasional blunders but they rarely forgive a constant absence of appropriate responses.

Good, active listening and empathy go a long way towards building good relationships.
Other positives:
- Responding with kindness when needed and helping when asked.
- Having good boundaries.
- Not giving advice unless asked

The most important skill to learn is reading people correctly and responding appropriately.
Try looking up articles on social skills in Psychology Today, a free online site which provides blogs on all kinds of life issues written by experts.
You could also browse the self-development shelves in bookshops or your local library.

BrokenAbyss

I don’t know. People suck…

The last set of friends I had I walked away from because of that. I am working through my mental health on my own now and it’s better I suppose.

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

@BrokenAbyss BUT WHY

BrokenAbyss

@assemblingaknob They don’t understand you and you’re never going to make them. They are bored. They need gossip and attention and drama to feel alive. You seem very sensitive and people like you are rare. They don’t even know why.

Isthisit · F

Thats very toxic behaviour from so called "friends". Maybe their just jealous of you for some reason.

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