Ever experienced this?

All the time

long termmarriage, makes partners like friends, hard to get affectionate,i think marriages should be law only be 20 years long, then oyur forced to marry somebody else,

Yes! My only theory is the fantasy aspect keeps it alive. Our partners have already experienced us so its reality for them. I do agree though, noticed it with married guys.

Confused.

Do you mean others give me more attention than they give her?

or

Others give me more attention than she does?

Yes. The newness has worn off with our partner and we like to be appreciated and give back.

Yes. Its exciting and scary at the sam time

Yes I get this. Totally.

On occasion yes

Expectations

No most people can control themselves around me