Life long regrets
I can't help but think of the relationships I had when I was younger, and I had two that were really great.
And I often find myself thinking about them.
Like man, did I fvck up!
And I wish I hadn't messed things up because they really understood me. They understood what I wanted, what I needed. And they took care of me.
You don't get that all the time.
Now that I'm older, I understand that. I've met so many women. Even gave the relationship thing a shot, and it was dead before it even started.
The main priority in relationships is compatibility.
Do your thoughts align?
Do you think alike?
Do you understand each other's needs?
Do you enjoy each other's company?
Do you enjoy talking to each other? To the point where time just flies by, and you don't even notice?
Do you genuinely like each other for who you are? And not just faking it or compromising it to keep it going?
Do you ever find yourself getting immersed in conversations and just forget everything and everyone around you?
Do you find yourself so attached to each other, and so close to each other, that you spend enough time with each other to be happy together, and just enough time apart to miss each other?
I had two that got away, and I even tried to get them back.
One of them found someone else shortly after and was in a relationship with him, so it was a no-go.
And other, well, she lost trust in me.
The trust was gone, and it would never really come back.
Yeah, I really fvcked that one up bad.
I think she met other guys after me, but I don't think she ever found someone like me.
I remember in my last relationship, we had a small fight, and we weren't talking to each other.
And this angel - I can't help but think it was my ex... This fvcking angel messaged my girl at the time, and said so many nice things about me!!!
I can't remember exactly what she said, but the point was, she wanted her to forgive me, and get us back together, because we were a good couple.
I'm not making this up.
Unbeknownst to both of them, I was reading that conversation as it was happening. Live.
So many questions come to mind.
Roy, how were you reading that conversation in real time?
Roy, why didn't you find out who that angel was?
I choose not to answer the first question.
As for the second, the angel in question had created a burner.
Smart.
I've always thought of myself to be somebody special.
A bit egoistic, I know.
But I've also always thought of the women who got me, and understood me, to be exceptionally special.
I wasn't everyone's cup of tea.
Not back then, and especially not now.
If someone liked me, well, they had exclusive taste.
If they loved me, cared for me, and understood me, they were one in a billion.
I'm not for everyone.
Not everyone can understand me.
Sometimes, not even when I spell things out for them.
I'm not joking.
I have spoken to women who just didn't get me at all.
Even when I said out loud exactly what I wanted from them, they didn't get it.
It was like talking to a wall.
Or reciting poetry to a goat.
I've spoken to someone so oblivious and unaware in that department, that I actually had regrets talking to this woman in the first place.
I mean, she was so bad, I vowed to myself that the next time I talked to someone, I'd conduct a background check and make sure they had an above-average IQ, before I started talking to them.
Maybe she was playing dvmb. Maybe she was actually trying to get rid of me, but didn't know how.
Whatever it was, she can pat herself on the back for making me even more reclusive.
I'm not sure where to go with this.
Have you ever remembered meeting someone so dvmb and annoying, you felt visibly disgusted?
I'm no smart toad myself.
But I do pride myself in being able to understand other people's feelings, emotions, needs and wants.
And I think that's the most important role in a relationship.
Without that, you're going nowhere.
You could meet a million suitors, but if you can't understand the way the other person thinks, or feels, or what they want and desire, then you'll be kicking rocks for a long time, and rightfully so.
Nobody wants to be around someone who's selfish and self-centered all the godd^mn time.
No.
You have to care about the other person too.
Not just care about what you're getting from them, or what they're giving you.
There's too many selfish people these days.
A lot of it has stemmed from social media popularity.
People think, "Well, I'm popular, I'm a celebrity. If he doesn't give me what I want, I can get it from someone else."
Yeah. You do that.
Take, take, take, and you give nothing back.
And you wonder why some people are so sad and depressed, feeling empty, despite being so popular and adored by millions.
Selfish.
Love and happiness isn't just about taking, but giving it back.
Give back love, make someone feel special, care for them, do nice things for them, and when they're happy, you'll feel that joy seeping into your own heart.
When someone you love is pleased with you, you'll automatically feel pleased too.
And it's not about pleasing someone, and giving all the time.
Nobody wants to be treated like a doormat all the time.
Give and take people.
Give and take.
That's where compatibility comes in.
That's why compatibility is so important.
Because when you understand each other, you know exactly what to do to make the other person feel better or happy - AND - this is very important; it won't feel like a chore.
Because whatever you give, you'll get back, and your happiness and pleasure will be mutual.
If you meet someone who thinks like you, who understands you, who can relate to you, who can feel you, who cares for you, and who is in tune with your thoughts and emotions, kidnap them and marry them immediately!
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And I often find myself thinking about them.
Like man, did I fvck up!
And I wish I hadn't messed things up because they really understood me. They understood what I wanted, what I needed. And they took care of me.
You don't get that all the time.
Now that I'm older, I understand that. I've met so many women. Even gave the relationship thing a shot, and it was dead before it even started.
The main priority in relationships is compatibility.
Do your thoughts align?
Do you think alike?
Do you understand each other's needs?
Do you enjoy each other's company?
Do you enjoy talking to each other? To the point where time just flies by, and you don't even notice?
Do you genuinely like each other for who you are? And not just faking it or compromising it to keep it going?
Do you ever find yourself getting immersed in conversations and just forget everything and everyone around you?
Do you find yourself so attached to each other, and so close to each other, that you spend enough time with each other to be happy together, and just enough time apart to miss each other?
I had two that got away, and I even tried to get them back.
One of them found someone else shortly after and was in a relationship with him, so it was a no-go.
And other, well, she lost trust in me.
The trust was gone, and it would never really come back.
Yeah, I really fvcked that one up bad.
I think she met other guys after me, but I don't think she ever found someone like me.
I remember in my last relationship, we had a small fight, and we weren't talking to each other.
And this angel - I can't help but think it was my ex... This fvcking angel messaged my girl at the time, and said so many nice things about me!!!
I can't remember exactly what she said, but the point was, she wanted her to forgive me, and get us back together, because we were a good couple.
I'm not making this up.
Unbeknownst to both of them, I was reading that conversation as it was happening. Live.
So many questions come to mind.
Roy, how were you reading that conversation in real time?
Roy, why didn't you find out who that angel was?
I choose not to answer the first question.
As for the second, the angel in question had created a burner.
Smart.
I've always thought of myself to be somebody special.
A bit egoistic, I know.
But I've also always thought of the women who got me, and understood me, to be exceptionally special.
I wasn't everyone's cup of tea.
Not back then, and especially not now.
If someone liked me, well, they had exclusive taste.
If they loved me, cared for me, and understood me, they were one in a billion.
I'm not for everyone.
Not everyone can understand me.
Sometimes, not even when I spell things out for them.
I'm not joking.
I have spoken to women who just didn't get me at all.
Even when I said out loud exactly what I wanted from them, they didn't get it.
It was like talking to a wall.
Or reciting poetry to a goat.
I've spoken to someone so oblivious and unaware in that department, that I actually had regrets talking to this woman in the first place.
I mean, she was so bad, I vowed to myself that the next time I talked to someone, I'd conduct a background check and make sure they had an above-average IQ, before I started talking to them.
Maybe she was playing dvmb. Maybe she was actually trying to get rid of me, but didn't know how.
Whatever it was, she can pat herself on the back for making me even more reclusive.
I'm not sure where to go with this.
Have you ever remembered meeting someone so dvmb and annoying, you felt visibly disgusted?
I'm no smart toad myself.
But I do pride myself in being able to understand other people's feelings, emotions, needs and wants.
And I think that's the most important role in a relationship.
Without that, you're going nowhere.
You could meet a million suitors, but if you can't understand the way the other person thinks, or feels, or what they want and desire, then you'll be kicking rocks for a long time, and rightfully so.
Nobody wants to be around someone who's selfish and self-centered all the godd^mn time.
No.
You have to care about the other person too.
Not just care about what you're getting from them, or what they're giving you.
There's too many selfish people these days.
A lot of it has stemmed from social media popularity.
People think, "Well, I'm popular, I'm a celebrity. If he doesn't give me what I want, I can get it from someone else."
Yeah. You do that.
Take, take, take, and you give nothing back.
And you wonder why some people are so sad and depressed, feeling empty, despite being so popular and adored by millions.
Selfish.
Love and happiness isn't just about taking, but giving it back.
Give back love, make someone feel special, care for them, do nice things for them, and when they're happy, you'll feel that joy seeping into your own heart.
When someone you love is pleased with you, you'll automatically feel pleased too.
And it's not about pleasing someone, and giving all the time.
Nobody wants to be treated like a doormat all the time.
Give and take people.
Give and take.
That's where compatibility comes in.
That's why compatibility is so important.
Because when you understand each other, you know exactly what to do to make the other person feel better or happy - AND - this is very important; it won't feel like a chore.
Because whatever you give, you'll get back, and your happiness and pleasure will be mutual.
If you meet someone who thinks like you, who understands you, who can relate to you, who can feel you, who cares for you, and who is in tune with your thoughts and emotions, kidnap them and marry them immediately!
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31-35, M
