What is your deepest regret?

@Dainbramadge I am sorry to hear this. I don’t know if I can help you because I am one of those neglected daughters. But the relationship with me and my dad is pretty frail but it’s mainly because he has never really accepted his role as a father. He left when I was 10 years old, for another woman, instantly regretted it but my mum had enough by that point and they divorced. But instead of keeping around and building relationships with his children, he just moved away from us all, had various partners, got re-married and divorced again. I know if he just spent a bit of time talking and listening to us and took responsibility for his actions, I knew we would let it be water under the bridge. But he’s still highly childish, very selfish and can’t even be bothered to tell us when he comes down to where we live to make an arrangement to see us, just expects to turn up on the front door and we drop everything. His actions are stopping us from developing our relationship with him and at this point I’ve already lived 27 years without him so I don’t really care. But it sounds to me if you’re willing to talk and to explain and to listen to what she has to say also and accepting your part in it, I think those bridges can be rebuilt

@GLITTER I am so sorry you have that type of relationship with your father.
I have no idea how someone can just up and leave their child.
The thing with me and my daughter cuts me so deep.
Just the thought of her not just not wanting to have contact with me but hating me is a serious drain on me.
I am really big into my kids and I keep up with her from her mothers husband and her brothers.
I buy her presents for holidays, birthdays and stuff just like I do for the boys.
I was creeping on her Facebook account. Looking at her pictures and reading her posts. Just stuff to feel like she was still in my life at least a little.
I accidentally liked a picture she posted and she blocked me. This was just last month.
Seven years she has been holding this grudge that she doesn't even realize her mother created.

I'm not giving up completely but she has to want to hear what I have to say before anything can happen.
I just hope it happens before it's too late.
Thank you for your thoughts and sharing you situation with me. :-)

@Dainbramadge I am so sorry to hear that. It must be a massive strain on you. I would just say keep trying my friend, one day she might see the light that it wasn’t your doing and you will be able to restore that relationship. But also remember if she has been manipulated, she might not even understand it wasn’t your fault, that’s going to be the hardest thing to overcome.

I don’t know how he did it either, my little brother was a baby at the time, my Nan (his mum) still to this day hates that he left a baby like that. I think he is just one of those people who needs to stay single and stop pretending he is something he is not