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when you live a lonely life & there's no quick easy solution to it

what do you do?

i have lived alone for 20 years now, i lost touch with the friends from my youth and now my only support network are my elderly mum and dad who live very far away....i live alone in a little flat....i don't go out very much now because i get paranoid about people and very anxious.......so i live a lonely existence and it's very difficult to bear.







it's like i get it in to my head that society has forgotten i'm here, i'm all alone in the world and an intense feeling of 'desolation'.

my one goal now is to find a partner, but my mother often tells me, ' she won't come knocking at your front door, i've got to get out there'.

i realize that but it's very hard for me...there's no easy fix to this dreadful loneliness, what can be done or how can i handle it?

i'm now in my late 40s.
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AbsolutelyFabulous · F Best Comment
Aim to be 1% better each week.. Set yourself little targets..
You have to start to break your monotonous routine and start small
Make a plan..
.. Look online for advice too... Not just here
Doing something 3 times creates a habit, keep making new habits..
Your mom is right..
You just need to go outside
durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M
@AbsolutelyFabulous thanks and thanks for your thoughts. appreciated and ill keep trying.
@durinsBane1983 you're welcome, thank you for the best comment
durinsBane1983 · 46-50, M
@AbsolutelyFabulous its my pleasure. lol.
@AbsolutelyFabulous 3 things a day so small they could be anything. Keep them up for 21 days or thereabouts, then you have freed a lot of addiction, I think matters into this conversation.

@durinsBane1983 It can be then about changing all you don't like... but also remember in that time you are setting up new things to be worried and finding compulsion from, so make them 3 new things a day, each day