I Dislike When Married Couples Play Around With The D Word
The D Word Is Divorce By The Way
Just wanted to clear up any possible misconceptions. That's not a word to throw around lightly because if somewhere down the road, you really DO want to get a divorce for real & you demand one from your spouse while at the dinner table, what are they going to do? They are going to roll their eyes at you & ask you to pass them the salt. By that point, you probably threw that word around so much that they stopped taking you seriously; they know you'll get over it eventually & your demand for a divorce will be forgotten until the next fight when you demand it again. It's a cycle, the equivalent of two five year old best friends getting mad at each other, telling each other that they don't want to be friends anymore & then being the best of friends again within twenty minutes.
That's how my stepfather & mother's marriage was the entire eight years they were married. They fought & threw around the D word at each other every single time, no matter how frequent or infrequent or silly or serious the fights were. To be honest, it's just a way to manipulate each other really.
If a husband of mine was constantly throwing the D word at me every time we had problems, I would just surprise him by asking "Where do I sign?" & watching how quickly he sits back down after that. Grovel, cry & beg, I will not. I'd rather just go through with it if it comes to that, regardless of whether if I really want to or not. Marriages like that are stressful.
Just wanted to clear up any possible misconceptions. That's not a word to throw around lightly because if somewhere down the road, you really DO want to get a divorce for real & you demand one from your spouse while at the dinner table, what are they going to do? They are going to roll their eyes at you & ask you to pass them the salt. By that point, you probably threw that word around so much that they stopped taking you seriously; they know you'll get over it eventually & your demand for a divorce will be forgotten until the next fight when you demand it again. It's a cycle, the equivalent of two five year old best friends getting mad at each other, telling each other that they don't want to be friends anymore & then being the best of friends again within twenty minutes.
That's how my stepfather & mother's marriage was the entire eight years they were married. They fought & threw around the D word at each other every single time, no matter how frequent or infrequent or silly or serious the fights were. To be honest, it's just a way to manipulate each other really.
If a husband of mine was constantly throwing the D word at me every time we had problems, I would just surprise him by asking "Where do I sign?" & watching how quickly he sits back down after that. Grovel, cry & beg, I will not. I'd rather just go through with it if it comes to that, regardless of whether if I really want to or not. Marriages like that are stressful.
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