how do you cope with feeling ' sexual frustration ' with women
can anyone help?
i'm a man in my late 40s now, i've had a hard life struggling with hard mental problems, i missed out on meeting women or having a relationship or girlfriend in my adult life, because i've had loads of problems right from the age of 16....i did have quite a few sexual flings with girls in my late teens/ early 20s but never had a relationship or girlfriend.....so i have missed out on a lot, i spent most of my twenties and thirties by myself, no support network, relationships or friends...and my only support in that time was my mother, who i'm very close to.
so, basically i never had the experience with girls or learned the social skills that i needed, because of how my life went.....so i'm presently working on myself now, with the hope i'll find a partner in the future.
i've not been outdoors in months now due to high levels of anxiety, but a problem occurs whenever i have gone out in the past, i see nice women/ girls who i like the look of, but feel i can't access them because of my circumstances??? feel like women i like are worlds apart from me......i've also had paranoia at times to, feeling like women in general are avoiding me for some reason......and feeling all these things makes me feel a lot of ' sexual frustration ', because i feel mentally tortured that the women i feel attracted to are not accessible to me??
and all i really want is a steady girlfriend, but obviously you can't just go up to a woman and say ' i like you, can i have your number or will you be my girlfriend ' - because that wouldn't be socially acceptable nowadays.
i live alone, only have my elderly mother for support now and just feel depressed at how i'm going to find a girlfriend, because that's what i really want, i often feel lonely and socially alienated from people and from women......i remember shagging girls and having fun with them long ago and wish i could have that again.
so i spend a lot of time longing for connection with women and feeling sexually frustrated, as my needs are not being met and when i have to go out and see nice looking women, it's like mental torture for me.
can anyone help or give me some guidance?
i'm a man in my late 40s now, i've had a hard life struggling with hard mental problems, i missed out on meeting women or having a relationship or girlfriend in my adult life, because i've had loads of problems right from the age of 16....i did have quite a few sexual flings with girls in my late teens/ early 20s but never had a relationship or girlfriend.....so i have missed out on a lot, i spent most of my twenties and thirties by myself, no support network, relationships or friends...and my only support in that time was my mother, who i'm very close to.
so, basically i never had the experience with girls or learned the social skills that i needed, because of how my life went.....so i'm presently working on myself now, with the hope i'll find a partner in the future.
i've not been outdoors in months now due to high levels of anxiety, but a problem occurs whenever i have gone out in the past, i see nice women/ girls who i like the look of, but feel i can't access them because of my circumstances??? feel like women i like are worlds apart from me......i've also had paranoia at times to, feeling like women in general are avoiding me for some reason......and feeling all these things makes me feel a lot of ' sexual frustration ', because i feel mentally tortured that the women i feel attracted to are not accessible to me??
and all i really want is a steady girlfriend, but obviously you can't just go up to a woman and say ' i like you, can i have your number or will you be my girlfriend ' - because that wouldn't be socially acceptable nowadays.
i live alone, only have my elderly mother for support now and just feel depressed at how i'm going to find a girlfriend, because that's what i really want, i often feel lonely and socially alienated from people and from women......i remember shagging girls and having fun with them long ago and wish i could have that again.
so i spend a lot of time longing for connection with women and feeling sexually frustrated, as my needs are not being met and when i have to go out and see nice looking women, it's like mental torture for me.
can anyone help or give me some guidance?
46-50, M
