My husbands grandma ruined my wedding how do I get over it?

It has been about a year since I got married I hate looking at my wedding photos I"m not smiling in many at all. My husband was raised by his grandma she basically said the family was taking bets when his next marriage was going to be. Right before I was about to walk down the aisle My husbands mom runs in the church nursery where I was crying says grandma says she sorry. Grandma has never told me she was sorry then she had divorce jokes at the reception.All she will say to this day is that it was a joke I"m sorry if your wife can't take a joke and she also tells my husband that he's going to do something to screw this marriage up like his last marriage that she was trying to prevent another divorce yes he has been married before . Him and I were high school sweet hearts got back together. I wish that I could have another wedding I don't want to spend the money that's not necessary its so unfair it was my first wedding my mom passed away that day was hard she wasen't there.This women is equally unkind to every one in the family I dont know what to do she is mom to him he has a mom there more like friends she had him young.