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if you mean they are killing it with kindess then thats what i was simply doing. i was trying to help her understand something because she didnt have the right definition. nor was she making any sense. i wasnt trying to be mean by any means.
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@iCrochetstuff: I'm not talking about you personally, I can't comment on that. But some people make these corrections looking down at another person and it can be offensive.
@Aidolovemostofyourthoughts: oh so maybe she took it the wrong way. hmm
Serenitree · F
@Aidolovemostofyourthoughts: this is why, when I see an error, I try asking instead of telling.
eg. I'm sorry, did you mean except or accept? They mean two different things and either word will fit here, but depending on which you use, it changes the whole meaning of your story.
It occasionally backfires and I was once told the person doesn't care if I understand the story or not. I said good I can stop trying. And blocked that person so I'd never have to figure out what he was saying again.
But mostly it leads to a discussion of how the English language can be so confusing. If you use doe instead of dough, or threw instead of through it can be confusing.
Feb. 24/17
4:27 pm
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eg. I'm sorry, did you mean except or accept? They mean two different things and either word will fit here, but depending on which you use, it changes the whole meaning of your story.
It occasionally backfires and I was once told the person doesn't care if I understand the story or not. I said good I can stop trying. And blocked that person so I'd never have to figure out what he was saying again.
But mostly it leads to a discussion of how the English language can be so confusing. If you use doe instead of dough, or threw instead of through it can be confusing.
Feb. 24/17
4:27 pm
EST
Serenitree · F
@iCrochetstuff: I don't mind eggshells. It's better than landmines. If I have to be careful in my wording, I will. I had a huge problem yesterday, with someone who felt accused because I transposed two words. I meant to say would you rather, but said instead, you would rather. If I'd been a tad more careful, he wouldn't have felt accused. Or maybe he still would have taken umbrage. I get the impression he is easily riled. So, eggshells shall be my flooring of choice, if it helps people feel more open and less threatened.
You must realize, we are entering the innermost sanctum of the human life....their minds and hearts. If we can't at least make an effort to make the people we converse with feel at ease and reasonably safe saying what they feel, we probably should look at how we feel if we perceive a threat or condescension. As Aido pointed out, we can't see facial expressions or hear tones of voice in text messages. We hear what we might project if we were saying the same words and see the same expression we imagine we might wear in the same circumstances.
Feb. 24/17
7:03 pm
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You must realize, we are entering the innermost sanctum of the human life....their minds and hearts. If we can't at least make an effort to make the people we converse with feel at ease and reasonably safe saying what they feel, we probably should look at how we feel if we perceive a threat or condescension. As Aido pointed out, we can't see facial expressions or hear tones of voice in text messages. We hear what we might project if we were saying the same words and see the same expression we imagine we might wear in the same circumstances.
Feb. 24/17
7:03 pm
EST