I love that we’re both working together for the kids

I hear you, and I understand why you want to be able to stand on your own. Wanting to be secure in yourself is a really good thing.

I also want you to be careful about moving too fast just because things feel good right now. When you’ve got kids, the safest path is to get your routine stable first, then add anything else only when it feels steady for you and them.

And if the relationship is serious, take your time with the kids part. Don’t rush it. When someone is around your kids, you’re watching more than just words....you’re watching consistency, how they treat the kids, how they handle boundaries, and whether it feels calm and safe in your gut.

You don’t owe anybody access to your kids until you truly feel confident. Not because you don’t trust your heart, but because you’re protecting your whole life....your peace, your children, and your future.

If my words come off heavy, I’m not trying to hurt you at all. I just care about you, and I want you to be safe and solid.

You deserve peace, and your kids deserve stability.