I just don’t want to feel like I’m a responsibility to him

He says he works hard to provide for me and the kids. I’m grateful for that but there should be more to a relationship other than it being about you working hard and providing for us. lol like where is the connection?? Where is the emotional support? It just can’t be based off of who pays the bills because I just want a partner. I don’t want to be taken care of. I want him to choose me and show affection so that i actually feel loved 😭😭