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Have any of you experienced, or heard of….

…men going through a midlife crisis at the age of 32?
I always thought it happened later in life, but maybe not…?
So, in November my son and his wife split up and while they BOTH are being so very immature and acting despicably to each other (it has been so very ugly and nasty!) but my son is exhibiting some VERY disturbing thoughts, desires and actions. He’s not even the man I thought I knew. (For example, the latest is that he is going to just walk away from her AND the kids…says she can have his money, the house, everything in it, the kids…he will give up, and leave them all to some better life which he says they will have without him)
I am trying so very hard to determine whether or not this is really who he is or if it could be something more, something deeper in him.

I am absolutely heartbroken by his behaviours and I feel the need to understand it on some level.
And yes, I am imploring him at every turn to get some therapy/help and fight someone to talk to…I’m not just accepting this as it is, at least not until I have exhausted all options and am left with no other choice but to accept it 🤦‍♀️

Have any of you some insight or wisdom you might share? Something perhaps I hadn’t thought of??
I need some help on this one
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fun4us2b · M
You don't mention his work life, is that OK - is he happy with that and not home life, are both bad?

Therapy yes for him and

You mention controlling DIL that is no fun after work, trust me I know... therapy for her too

Sorry for your worries...
ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F
@fun4us2b thank you. Yes, his work is okay so far, but I do worry about it too, as his job is quite demanding and can be very dangerous (he runs a crane all day, super duty heavy lifts) he needs to have his wits about him at all times. I would love if he would take some vacation time and just focus on some therapy and some time to decompress from it all.
fun4us2b · M
@ImpeccablyImperfect That is stressful and carries a lot of responsibility and coming home to someone that doesn't understand that is no fun...he's probably doesn't even know how or that he should be explaining that to her...

The main thing is to keep talking and being supportive. I'll never forget one tough night with my son, we were both upset and just couldn't find the right words to help him, but at one point I just gave him a big hug and he hugged me back and I knew he'd be ok....and he is.