Have any of you experienced, or heard of….

…men going through a midlife crisis at the age of 32?
I always thought it happened later in life, but maybe not…?
So, in November my son and his wife split up and while they BOTH are being so very immature and acting despicably to each other (it has been so very ugly and nasty!) but my son is exhibiting some VERY disturbing thoughts, desires and actions. He’s not even the man I thought I knew. (For example, the latest is that he is going to just walk away from her AND the kids…says she can have his money, the house, everything in it, the kids…he will give up, and leave them all to some better life which he says they will have without him)
I am trying so very hard to determine whether or not this is really who he is or if it could be something more, something deeper in him.

I am absolutely heartbroken by his behaviours and I feel the need to understand it on some level.
And yes, I am imploring him at every turn to get some therapy/help and fight someone to talk to…I’m not just accepting this as it is, at least not until I have exhausted all options and am left with no other choice but to accept it 🤦‍♀️

Have any of you some insight or wisdom you might share? Something perhaps I hadn’t thought of??
I need some help on this one

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

A man is not really mature until age 37 according to biology research. So he's reacting like she was his entire world and without her he's nothing. It's very similar to how some teens react.

He's a shell , met her, merged his entire identity into being with her, now when she's gone, he's back to being a shell again. A broken shell.

He is rejecting himself happiness and that's why he don't care about anything not the house not the money not even the kids.

He could be so low that it's on suicidal level.

But he's still adult so you can't nag or force him to go see a therapist. It won't help unless he's interested. And most men rather isolate when they are hurt and find other ways to cope.

Just let him know you're there for him just a call / message away. Drive by his place with food. Just show him love.

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

@Queendragonfly thank you. I have just returned from dinner with him and he has agreed to see a therapist. I’m on the hunt now to find one in his area (he’s about an hour from me) who will direct bill his insurance plan, and who will do zoom meetings. I’m also picking up the kids tomorrow to have them for the weekend, and I’m expecting that he will come over too, and spend time with them.
Our talk went very well tonight and he has come to recongnize ther he DOES NOT actually want to leave his kids. So that’s a positive step at least 🩵

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

Thank you for your words.