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Disgustedman · 61-69, M
Disgustedman · 61-69, M
@Really Thanks. In my opinion, yes. It can be in a limited sense, a broader sense, or a lifetime sense. Because the parents shape their children's outlook on life and how they should approach it. If the approach is half-assed or ignorant you get what you get.
Really · 80-89, M
@Disgustedman It would be bizarre to think our personalities were completely unaffected by our upbringing. I might have an issue with the word 'blame' though. I see it as emotional & accusatory; whereas our parents were products of their own upbringing and may have been subconsciously unable to change.
"[i]We were all born into the midst of a drama in progress and may spend our lives trying to figure out what went on in the previous acts[/i]." (probably somewhat misquoted) - Sylvia Fraser 'My Father's House'.
"[i]We were all born into the midst of a drama in progress and may spend our lives trying to figure out what went on in the previous acts[/i]." (probably somewhat misquoted) - Sylvia Fraser 'My Father's House'.
Disgustedman · 61-69, M
@Really it's true parents in the past did not have any guidebooks. So really it wasn't until the 50s 60s that psychology started to pick up on the childhood traumas but until the 1990s 2000 they really didn't intercede well and by then it was too late for a lot of kids.
But I will agree maybe it's not blame. But it could be even worse it could be indifference that would really be hell.
But I will agree maybe it's not blame. But it could be even worse it could be indifference that would really be hell.