So I researched what a friend is...

The internet is extensive. Gave me a couple of definitions.

FRIEND
People who don't leave you. People who make life better, who lift your spirit. People who when you're with never make you feel excluded.

Once upon a time, I thought I had many. Now I can't think of a name. They're rare I guess.

I was their go to girl.
But for some reason...they don't lift me up the same.

Just life as it is. Odd thing is, I'm okay with that. I'd rather be honest and true in the company of a few, than a doormat or a shiny ornament in a whole room of people who I don't really think cared for me.

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Slipup · 46-50, F

Friendship is like maintaining a plant. Sometimes you may forget to water it, but if enough thought and care goes in overall, it will still thrive. However, one's choice of people should be considered carefully in relation to the reality of the life one leads. Just like a plant that needs full sun can't be planted in shade etc. Once I was honest with myself about which people I couldn't support a friendship with, due to differences in expectations or values, I stopped making friends I couldn't keep. I was a fair age before I figured it out. In my experience, the lasting and deep connections are few, but they are enough.