how often would lustful thoughts come into your head for male and female

I'm a Christian but a lot of lustful thoughts come into my head at times say about once in every week . I'd never take advantage of a woman if lustful thoughts come in but they do come in and I'm very confused over the whole situation. Do lustful thoughts come in for everyone or is it just me that's happening too . I dont think I've a problem with . I'm on my own but they do come in .
What's your take on all of this

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canusernamebemyusername · M

They happen to everyone. I have OCD so what are called intrusive thoughts happen all the time. But in some people (like me) we get scared or disturbed or have some other type of reaction to the thoughts and think they reflect our true selves. But if they really did reflect our true selves they wouldn't distress us. The fact that you are reacting to your thoughts the way you are tells you that are not a reflection on you and they are against your sense of self. This is called Ego-dystonic versus Ego-syntonic.
The problem is when you try to fight those thoughts they just keep getting even more intrusive. One of the things that has helped me was to realize all this and purposely think those thoughts and try not to react to them. After a while your brain becomes numb to the thoughts and they lessen. But it can take practice.