If I'm desired by someone then there's always a "catch". They either need something from me be it monetary support or emotional support.
Never have I met someone who actually wanted me genuinely.
The thing is I don't care anymore at this point. I learnt to be independent and not depend on people for shit. I am a go getter. I used to wish I had support but I don't need that anymore as well.
I've been constantly rejected all my life. Heck I still do get rejected unless I'm of some relevance to them. I used to bother and feel bad but it's never worth it.
Here's something I can show you which is kinda applicable.
The good part is to feel a part of things, a sense of belonging and community, and being able to contribute things that contribute to the well being of others.
The downside is that sometimes the timing of what people want is not appropriate or even inconvenient or difficult. At times like that one needs the right way to say no.