Why do some people think I'm either a joke, inexperienced, or not being just smart?

I get it, but it's not like they know me, and they don't. I may be young, but it doesn't mean I don't know everything. Me being young means I can learn many things, and when more decades come, I'd have better knowledge than the people who are a smartass.

I just simply don't care of what others think of me, if this is the case🤷🏾‍♂️. But for those who do support me, as well as giving me good advice, I'd give them respect in return. 👍

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SW-User

Some people are built for hate, they hate others no matter what. Brining others down is the only way they feel good about themselves. Well, with age comes wisdom and experience as they say, but does it really for everyone? I don’t think so. I have some people in the family and among friends who are almost 20 years older than I’m but their maturity level is that of a child. They treat others in every nasty way possible for them, they can’t string a sentence without having a swear word in it, they still chase young women even though they are married, they are bad influence on their kids. Do you call it experience? No, they are just living for the heck of it and when they see you do otherwise, they feel left out. When I confront any of them, I end it in a sentence like “oh, you are giving me advise? That’s cute.” And I move on with a grin. No need to waste the valuable energy on them. I save it for the ones I care for.

OogieBoogie · F

@SW-User Excellent comment - you're right - some... Never learn.

And the hate thing!
- So true!

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@SW-User This is fairly true. I wouldn't call their sense of parenting as an experience, either. It's just being childish and, if it comes to their children, they would grow up to be just like them. A disappointment, really.

SW-User

Thank you. 👍️@OogieBoogie

SW-User

@xSiFiGamer2016x They are only good at Facebook and instagram parenting.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@SW-User So, they're taking advice from the people on social media that are somewhat abusive to their children?? Wtf?

SW-User

More like posting how great parents they are on social media while being shitty parents in real. One guy I know can’t wait for his dad to die so that he can take his money. He wasn’t around his mom and didn’t go to his moms funeral because she didn’t have any. I really can’t stand him. He’s a pervert too. @xSiFiGamer2016x

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@SW-User It pisses me off by reading about it. What kinda person who would take money from a dying father and not attending at a mom's funeral? A monster, that's what. And a pervert, too? People these days don't give a shit about others and themselves anymore...

SW-User

My thoughts exactly. His nephews are just like him as they have spent much time around him. Totally terrible young men filled with greed, jealousy, anger and no respect at all. @xSiFiGamer2016x

OogieBoogie · F

@SW-User Bad parents make me infuriated too!

Some - just neglect.
Some - use their children as extensions to their own ego.
Some - just don't listen and try and mold their children into something they're not.
Some - parent the way they think society expects them to parent.

Children are just young people -same rights, same dreams, same hopes, and individuals in their own right.

I found with both my kids - I had to adjust my parenting to suit each one, and change it ad they grew. My patenting was almost in constant state of change to keep up with tje way each was developing.

I joke sometimes that people should have to get a licence to become a parent, but deep down.... I'm starting to really believe they should.

I work at a school where children have developmental issues, just due to bad parenting and terrible home environments.

Plus - when you look at socially accepted views on parenting - so many are basically reinforcing a brand of tyranny - 'just do as I say'... I HATE THAT with a vengeance!😠...

It shouldn't be about parenting... It should be about mentoring and caring anf having their back when they want to try something
That you think may contain risk.

The things they need most is belief and desire in their ability to stretch out into the world anf gather it unto themsleves.

SW-User

@OogieBoogie

I joke sometimes that people should have to get a licence to become a parent, but deep down.... I'm starting to really believe they should.

Can’t say it any better than that. I have always advocated for that license.
Not everyone deserves a kid. I’m happy for your kids. My parents weren’t very great but they are nice towards my sister. They learned how to get better at it.

OogieBoogie · F

@SW-User Ah... Well there you've hit on a point too!

Everyone has a differnt skill set. Some find parenting difficult, some dont even like it.

I think it's great that people are getting out of stereo types and letting guys be stay at home dads... Some guys are just brainbuilt to be excellent dads, conversely some women are not brainbuilt to be stay at home mums.

Some - parenting comes naturally - some need to learn.

It's not an automatic skill that just happens magically.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@SW-User They may be as immature as their uncle, but I wouldn't blame them that much. It's the uncle's fault, for the most part. Regardless, it's just pathetic for them to live this way...

SW-User

👍️@OogieBoogie @xSiFiGamer2016x

OogieBoogie · F

@xSiFiGamer2016x it may not even be purely the uncles fault -maybe he had shitty parents?

Where I am. We're seeing the result of parenting degrading over generations, mire and more parenting skills are lost with each generation. And becuase these people are all lumped together in one suburb.. It becones the norm....Kids grow up thinking this is how parents are supposed to be!

It's really sad.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie It really is. This right here is like a side note, just in case if I want to be a father one day. I can already see how much of a father I can be, but I'm not ready.

OogieBoogie · F

@xSiFiGamer2016x No one ever is!😊

Theory is VERY different wjen it Comes to reality and people... You truely don't know till you get there.

xSiFiGamer2016x · 26-30, M

@OogieBoogie Facts. Big facts. 💪