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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
My brother is a violent unfaithful disrespectful drop out that joined the military so he wouldn’t be kicked out of my parents home. He recently was found out in another affair this one where he lied saying his toddler daughter wasn’t his but his sisters who he had to help look after. We spent many nights stopping him from further physically abusing his wife.
My sister is a not so secret alcoholic & badly dependent on pot. She’s lost jobs due to not feeling it important to show up on time and complete tasks when she was asked. She has been evicted and defends loser friends who again and again let her down. Including one man who literally kicked her friend on her vagina during a fit of rage.
They both are inherently self centered and treat my parents like they’re stupid and show them no gratitude for the help and support they’ve provided.
I’m not violent and without addictions. I don’t ask for money from them. My husband goes by each week to do their yard. I help them with household chores. We invite them for dinner at our home and make sure each holiday they are celebrated.
It’s incredibly frustrating to feel so overshadowed by my siblings poor lifestyles. I understand they want better for them but it’s exhausting to hear criticism for my life and see praise for the others “trying their best”. 😑
Seems like I needed to vent sorry for venting all over your post
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My sister is a not so secret alcoholic & badly dependent on pot. She’s lost jobs due to not feeling it important to show up on time and complete tasks when she was asked. She has been evicted and defends loser friends who again and again let her down. Including one man who literally kicked her friend on her vagina during a fit of rage.
They both are inherently self centered and treat my parents like they’re stupid and show them no gratitude for the help and support they’ve provided.
I’m not violent and without addictions. I don’t ask for money from them. My husband goes by each week to do their yard. I help them with household chores. We invite them for dinner at our home and make sure each holiday they are celebrated.
It’s incredibly frustrating to feel so overshadowed by my siblings poor lifestyles. I understand they want better for them but it’s exhausting to hear criticism for my life and see praise for the others “trying their best”. 😑
Seems like I needed to vent sorry for venting all over your post
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@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Your a sweet kind and caring person 🤗🤗🤗 I'm sorry your parents should be pleased to have a responsible child. I want you to know your special. Hope you find comfort in your husband. Your parents should be more greatful. There's nothing wrong with venting it helps you blow some steam! 🤗
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@RadiantRuby thank you!!
It’s nice to hear ❤️❤️❤️
It’s nice to hear ❤️❤️❤️
quitwhendone · M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit
That was a good vent. 🤗
I wonder what your brother's problem is. He has serious issues. Your sister sounds like she has severe anxiety.
What is their criticism of you and your life?
That was a good vent. 🤗
I wonder what your brother's problem is. He has serious issues. Your sister sounds like she has severe anxiety.
What is their criticism of you and your life?
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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@quitwhendone part of it I believe stems from sexual abuse I suspect he was victim to as a young child.
But I was also abused and I haven’t ever used that as a reason or excuse to hurt others.
They love me but sometimes they want to dictate my life. Maybe from fear I’ll somehow change and become like my siblings. But I can either do exactly as they say each time or hear criticism and have an argument with my father/ mother whoever that day about why my own choices have value. It’s an annoying line to walk.
But I was also abused and I haven’t ever used that as a reason or excuse to hurt others.
They love me but sometimes they want to dictate my life. Maybe from fear I’ll somehow change and become like my siblings. But I can either do exactly as they say each time or hear criticism and have an argument with my father/ mother whoever that day about why my own choices have value. It’s an annoying line to walk.
quitwhendone · M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Yeah, it is. Parents are like that. They spend 18 years making decisions for you. It's hard to turn that off. Tell them it's important to you to make your own choices and your own mistakes. Tell them when they don't let you think for yourself, they are belittling you and demeaning you.
You may want to have a talk with your brother and sister about getting therapy. They seem to have deep rooted issues. They are probably not bad people. Reach out to them and see if you can help them. (I know it's easy for me to say that sitting here.)
You may want to have a talk with your brother and sister about getting therapy. They seem to have deep rooted issues. They are probably not bad people. Reach out to them and see if you can help them. (I know it's easy for me to say that sitting here.)
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@quitwhendone I haven’t voluntarily spoken to my brother in years. My sister denies any suggestions she needs help. Unfortunately I’ve already had conversations with my father in particular about how he makes me feel incompetent when he doesn’t respect my choosing a different way. He told me if I do something he thinks is stupid he will say and and doesn’t care if that bothers me. Ironic of course as he keeps his thoughts to himself regarding the other two 🙄
quitwhendone · M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Well, that truly sucks. I have a sibling I don't speak to. I wrote her a letter explaining why and what she had to do to continue a relationship with me. (Stop being so rude and angry.) She denied she had any problem at all and said she was fine with me not talking to her.
I wish you luck with your family. You seem like an exceptionally good person to me. Your parents are very lucky to have you.
I wish you luck with your family. You seem like an exceptionally good person to me. Your parents are very lucky to have you.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@quitwhendone thank you 🙏🏽
Sorry about your sister it’s unfortunate indeed but I guess family is just like this sometimes
Sorry about your sister it’s unfortunate indeed but I guess family is just like this sometimes
quitwhendone · M
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Yeah, family is like that and she's like that. And she's a psychologist so one would think she could recognize her issues and attempt to correct them.