If a person is trying to constantly find faults about a person for no reason "what way would it affect your self esteem and your relationship

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SW-User

Do you mean having a SO or friend constantly telling you what's wrong with you? Haranguing you all the time?

It depends upon how invested in the relationship you are. If you're really invested, it would completely undermine your self confidence and cause great stress in the relationship,

riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

@SW-User thanks . I swear the talk is toxic , the finding faults is toxic and fo you know what it reminds of Co dependency .
At this stage now I stay on my own and I travel alone .
A good friend of mine told me that

SW-User

@riseofthemachine Yes, it's very toxic. That's not how anyone should live. You both are supposed to be supporting each other in every way. Otherwise, what's the point of being in a relationship? You can get that crap from a shitty co-worker that you don't get along with.

If it were me, I'd rather be alone. I've shed all the toxic people in my life and I'm so glad I did! At times, I wish I had done it sooner. Don't just stay because you think it's easier. No one should live a life in which they're actively avoiding or just living around their SO. You have a right to be happy.